Reluctant Entertainer Book Giveaway!

This giveaway is now closed.  Winners are #209 Nicole, #210 Marie, #15 Andi, #102 Rena and #112 Robin.

I first “met” Sandy, from Reluctant Entertainer, many moons ago.  We both started our blogs in 2006 and then first connected soon after that when she left a comment on one of my posts.   She is the real deal and she has such a beautiful heart for ministry especially in the area of hospitality.  She is supportive, encouraging and genuine and all of that comes through loud and clear in her blog posts.  She even guest blogged here last year and shared her delicious recipe for Strawberry Bread.

From the very beginning when I started reading her blog I was captivated and intrigued because everything she touched on about being a reluctant entertainer I could identify with.  Over the past four years Sandy’s daily blog inspiration has seeped into my soul and my attitude to the point where I don’t fear hostessing a dinner party like I once used too.  Does that mean I have it down pat so that everything runs perfectly every time I do it?  Nope far from it but what I’ve come to learn through Sandy’s teaching is that the art of hospitality is not about perfection, it’s about connecting with and blessing others.   It can be as elaborate or as simple as we’d like it to be because it’s not about what food we’re serving or how our house looks but rather what we’re offering of ourselves.

I’m so beyond excited that Sandy has now been able to expand her hospitality ministry with the recent release of her new book, The Reluctant Entertainer.   I’m so proud of her and all that she has accomplished.  The day I received my copy of her book in the mail I sat down and read it cover to cover in one sitting.  It’s that good and it didn’t disappoint!

(click on the cover above if you’d like to order your own copy of Sandy’s book)

This book is absolutely stunning!  The pictures throughout draw you in and her words capture your attention as she unravels the mystery behind why so many of us are hesitant to entertain.  She walks us through each of the roadblocks we face and counters them with simple and realistic strategies for welcoming guests into our homes.  Not to mention all the delicious recipes she includes as well.  Yum!

Imagine my surprise when I got to the acknowledgments at the end of the book and found my own name listed there.  Oh my goodness I was touched beyond belief.  Thank you my friend!

Today I have FIVE copies of this amazing book to give away to five of you.

Please leave a comment on this post, prior to Tuesday, September 7th at 4:00 pm PST, telling me if you are or were at some point a Reluctant Entertainer yourself.

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423 Responses to Reluctant Entertainer Book Giveaway!

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    diana says

    I am 50 and still a reluctant entertainer – I get so worked up before that I find it hard to enjoy the time.

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    Joyce says

    After having kids, I was definitely a reluctant entertainer. What a great giveaway!

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    Carla W says

    I always think that my house isn’t as clean, uncluttered, nicely decorated, etc. as someone else’s house. Now with four kids, I’m probably right. 🙂

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    Amy says

    Yes, I am. I hestitate to host things because I don’t know how to “decorate” and make things look pretty.


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    Heather says

    I entertain on Thanksgiving and literally no other occasions. SO I think that I qualify as a reluctant entertainer.

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    Dana the Wonderchick says

    I am a very reluctant entertainer! This is due mostly to being SO unorganized. Even if my house was actually clean and neat, I am usually too concerned with making sure everyone is happy and satisfied with the food/drink/entertainment selections I have chosen. I am so glad I was led to your blog. I have a feeling I’m going to learn a great deal!

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    maria says

    I’ve been avoiding hosting any dinner parties or gatherings for the last 3 years as i’ve been worried I a) can’t cook b) don’t have the space c) it will not run as smoothly as my partners friends parties and d) i just don’t think i can do it.
    fantastic giveaway which I would love to get.
    thanks for this!

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    Diann @ The Thrifty Groove says

    What a fantastic giveaway! I love visiting Sandy’s blog. It helps to give me the inspiration to do so many things involved in entertaining!

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    Candy says

    I don’t think I’m a reluctant entertainer per se, because I love entertaining. However, I do tend to obsess about it, or so says my family. 😉

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    se7en says

    Hi there, what a fabulous giveaway – I am the ultimate reluctant entertainer!!! The nature of our lives is that we have a constant stream of guests through our house and people over dinner at least two or three nights a week… it has been a real blessing for me to rise to the challenge!!! I would love to read this book!!!

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    Mae says

    After I’d been in a few of the homes of families in the church we started attending, I realized there was no way I could return the invitations. Our home just didn’t measure up. We don’t have the latest stainless steel appliances or the granite countertops or the Italian tiles or the maple cabinets. And never mind that I’m not an incredibly clever cook. Well, you know what happens when you never return the invite. People stop inviting you at all, consciously or not. Yet, I really want to be able to extend warm invitations to others and enjoy having the company here! Perhaps this book could help me start somewhere.

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    Jennifer says

    I love Sandy…a reluctant entertainer…not by my friend’s standards…but Sandy has opened my eyes so many times. Love her…did I say that already? LOL!

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    Kate says

    Love it! Can’t wait to read the blog.

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    Anne B. says

    Sometimes reluctant…sometimes not….depends on time being able to put into hosting and resources. The important thing is always trying to learn more and being a better hostess! I do love being able to take care of my family and friends!

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    Andi says

    The only people we ever entertain are close family – which probably makes me a very reluctant entertainer! I wouldn’t even know where to start if we invited friends over….

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    Heather L says

    I am an introvert and a perfectionist, so there are definitely many times I am a reluctant entertainer! At the same time, I have a servant’s heart and love to cook for people, so I enjoy opening up my home, even though it takes me outside of comfort zone.

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    Carol says

    I use to entertain and did enjoy it. After a divorce and remarriage I have not entertained but really have a desire to open my home and life up to others and entertaining would be a way to do that.

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    Untypically Jia says

    I would love to entertain more but I rarely have good ideas! Please enter me.

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    Amy says

    LOVE her website, she has definitely been an encouragement to me, would love a copy of her new book and if I don’t win it here, will definitely hop on over and purchase it!

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    Jill says

    I’ve never visited the Reluctant Entertainer blog before, but it’s some much needed encouragement. I love the thought of entertaining, but when the opportunity arises, so do my insecurities and I become ‘reluctant’. I would love to read this book and learn how to grow in my hospitality! Maybe it’s a gift that has been hiding…I would love to discover it!

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    Laura says

    I am a reluctant entertainer, mostly because I am always have a certain amount of anxiety over meeting and entertaining people I don’t know very well. I know this is an area I need to work on and this book sounds like it would help my insecurity

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    Andrea says

    I am SO reluctant to have anyone over… I purposefully choose other locations for get togethers. Or, if we’re getting together with another friend of ours and she says “your place or ours”… I always say her place and I’ll bring the food!

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    Marcia Francois, Organising Queen says

    I am almost always a reluctant entertainer because I want things to be perfect…

    The one thing that kind of gets me over it is thinking about the people, because I do love to connect with my friends.

    But I would dearly love to know how to overcome that perfectionism with being hospitable when you really don’t cook that well!

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    s says

    Both my husband and I are reluctant entertainers – to the point we don’t entertain mostly because our house is always cluttered and strewn with stuff and the dogs and the kids!!! we used to throw a big family party outside every year and it was fun but stressful preparing…so we stopped but I miss having it and seeing all the family together.

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    Heather says

    I love the idea of entertaining, but have never really done it, because I’ve always lived in small places, where entertaining was difficult. We’re in the process of building a house, and I cannot wait to start entertaining – in mid mid-30’s!

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    Sonya Burton says

    I am definitely a Reluctant Entertainer because I stress so much over everything! Thanks so much!

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    Tali Etra says

    I love entertaining, but I get so stressed and irate that I have made my husband dread when I entertain. I feel like if everything isn’t perfect then I am not making people feel welcome in my home.

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    francine says

    I so need this. I love having people over but never think that things are good enough for guests!

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    stacy - MO says

    I love having people over, but always worry that my house won’t be as clean or uncluttered as someone else’s. I need to learn to stop comparing myself to others and accept that while everything may not be perfect, as long as everyone feels comfortable and is having a good time, then the get-together was a succeess.

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    JWebb says

    I am always reluctant but don’t want to be! I love to have people over but worry over every detail! This book would be wonderful!

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    Kim @ Homesteader's Heart says

    I love Sandy. I’ve been following her blog for quite awhile now and am always inspired when I leave.
    I would have to say that I did used to be a reluctant entertainer. But I’m much more relaxed now.
    I’ve been eye balling her book since it came out. Here’s to hoping I win! LOL!

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    Melissa says

    I do tend to be a relunctant entertainer. Sometimes more so than others. 🙂

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    Margaret says

    Every time I plan to entertain, I go through a cycle: excitement over planning the event; dread that I can’t get ready in time; a brief time of hoping that everyone cancels; exhilaration and a huge burst of energy at the last minute as I prepare the food and finish getting the house ready; joy at having a house full of people.

    Yes, I am a reluctant entertainer.

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    Theresa says

    I still feel that I’m a reluctant entertainer. I often don’t invite people over b/c I’m not sure I can get things “just right.” Sounds like a great book 🙂

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    Cathie says

    I am a reluctant entertainer. I am more of a last minute person so I don’t have as much time to worry about all the planning. I would be interested in knowing what Sandy has to say in her book.

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    tlmcl says

    My area of reluctancy in entertaining comes in adding the decorating aspect with the food. I am excited to explore Sandy’s ideas and be inspired to take my entertaining to a new level.

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    Kaitlin says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer (unless we’re having family over – that, I can handle!)

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    Tina says

    I’m actually hesitating right now to host another blogger and her family! Why? I don’t know-the house isn’t clean enough, my carpet has stains, the deck needs staining, etc. I really should start reading her blog! I think the book would be great, I would love to own it!

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    Marie says

    I’m definitely a reluctant entertainer…but it looks like I’m in good company! The crazy thing is…if I go to someone else’s home, I don’t mind if we sit on the floor and eat slices of pizza off of paper towels! So, why am I so hard on myself?!? Guess that I could stand to read the book!

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    Melissa H says

    I’m always so worried about the house being clean enough and my dishes being fancy enough that I’m reluctant to entertain. This book sounds like it can get me over those fears and teach me how to enjoy having guest over.

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    Julie says

    My parents were always gracious hosts and welcomed people into our home. I learned that people appreciate the act of you inviting them into your home regardless if there is laundry to be folded on the couch or dishes in the sink. Guests aren’t there to white gove your mantel, they are there to build a relationship with you.

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    sarah lynn says

    still am!

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    Dana E says

    Oh this book might be the light at the end of the tunnel for me! haha! I love having friends over, but about an hour before they arrive, I’m hyperventilating and pacing the entire house in worry that the food wont be right, or they wont have a good time, or something completely out of control like it’s going to rain out the man-time grilling. And a free copy would be absolutely wonderful!!

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    Lori H says

    I used to be a reluctant entertainer. Not that I am totally assured now, but Sandy’s blog has really helped change my perspective. I would love to own her book!

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    Kandra says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. My cooking skills are still beginner at best and I never know how much to cook and when to start cooking to make sure it’s warm. I am a little high strung so I know this book will do me some good!

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    Michelle Thompson says

    I was and still am, but not as much as before, a reluctant entertainer. I always want everything to be perfect and it stresses me out so much that I never wanted to do it. This would be perfect for me to get out of that comfort zone and go for it more with family and friends.

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    Heather says

    I always thought we weren’t good enough, our house wasn’t nice enough, our food wasn’t yummy enough, and that I couldn’t afford it! We have changed our thinking a lot and have realized what is important is our attitude-welcoming and loving-and the rest doesn’t matter! 🙂
    Plus, no one has the “perfect” house or menu!

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    Carrie says

    I have extended family of about 25 who live nearby and like to get together about once a month. We used to rotate among homes, but because of several circumstances (my parents downsizing, etc) I now have the only house big enough to host everyone. So, I am the reluctant entertainer. I love having everyone over, and they definitely do not expect perfection, but it is hard coming up with new & different food ideas all the time.

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    Shannon says

    I was (and still am) a reluctant entertainer. I would love to keep my house neat enough that people could stop by on short notice. I love having people over once they get there!

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    Michelle says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. I get too nervous about the little things – will everyone be bored, will there be enough food, should I play music or initiate conversations, etc. – to enjoy the company. This book would be a great one to add to my reading list before the holidays!

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    Ann R. says

    I always end up having a great time but I am definitely reluctant BEFORE as I get anxious about what to serve, how much to serve, how to clean the house in time, etc. Thanks for the giveaway opportunity!

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    Dori Moore says

    Always reluctant, but eternally glad when I do entertain and create memories for my family and myself.

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    Tiff says

    Reading these comments is like you all are reading my mind! I can relate to pretty much all of them… not returning invitations, then the invitations pretty much stop; the cycle of excitement/dread/panic/fun that I go through when I do entertain; our home or my cooking not measuring up. So I’d say I’m not even a reluctant entertainer… I’m an entertaining avoider! I definitely don’t need another blog to read, but sounds like Sandy’s may be worth adding to my list, anyway.

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    Aimee says

    I was never a reluctant entertainer, until I got married! I used to love to plan parties and entertain, and still do. However, my husband really hates it, and after years together I have become more reluctant. Looks like a cute book!

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    Lea Stormhammer says

    I love to entertain but I rarely do because I often feel that I don’t have the “right” things, or that my house isn’t clean enough, or that I don’t have enough space, etc. I spend hours and hours and HOURS trying to get ready and then fret away the entire visit, nit-picking myself on things that probably don’t matter, like whether the flower arrangements was “just right” rather than “merely” pretty. I wish I knew how to get over that hurdle and just enjoy my company.

    Thanks for hosting this!

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    Sherri says

    Love her site also. Would LOVE her book! Yes, I love to have folks over, but fret over the ‘details’. Reluctantly I have tossed a few gatherings. I know her words would inspire.

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    Trina says

    I am soooo a reluctant entertainer. Between working full time and having three young children, my house is never right for entertaining! I would love to be more social if I could.

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    Lain says

    I need this like, NOW! I have 20 people coming over for a bbq tonight. It seemed like a good idea at the time…

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    Shelly says

    My friend always has people over and I love it. I always think in my head that I want to do it but I never, ever do! 🙁

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    Deborah says

    I love to entertain and am always on the lookout for great ideas in this area.

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    Sarah T says

    Yes, I’m a reluctant entertainer – I’d love to read her book to get over my fear of not having the perfect house, the right number of chairs in the living room for conversation, etc…

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    Joy says

    I am the most reluctant Entertainer out there. I never grew up seeing my mom entertain so I have no clue where to start. Not to mention I think I tend to set my standards to high, and then get disappointed when they don’t work out. I also need to learn how to be comfortable with myself instead of comparing my entertaining to those around me. Thus I am growing, but the thought of entertaining still overwhelms me and stresses me out.

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    Jennifer Hayes says

    I’ve finally figured out that my home will never be “Perfect”. So I just make it comfortable and loving and hope that my guest and friends love it as much as I do.

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    Kristin S says

    I actually love to entertain but my husband gets frustrated because I get so stressed out leading up to people coming over. I think I could learn alot from this book!

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    Jennifer says

    Love to entertain, but the house is in the midst of a remodel that we never seem to have time to complete so don’t have a lot of company over. The 4 kids have friends over all the time, but I just don’t feel comfortable with the remodel mess that has been going on forever.

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    becca banana says

    Would love a copy! I am still reluctant but do enjoy having people at my home. I get too focused on the logistics and need to be able to relax and enjoy the company. 🙂

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    Karen says

    I’m totally a reluctant entertainer. I always worry that whatever I’m making won’t turn out right or that I won’t get everything done in time, so I’m always hesitant to have people over.

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    the chatty housewife says

    I was a reluctant entertainer when I was first married, I was pretty scared actually! Now I love having company and I love serving meals to big groups.

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    melissa says

    I love having people over, but I am not a good entertainer. Too many details and too much to juggle. If we have people over I want to visit w/ them NOT worry about all the other stuff. So, yes, I”m definitely at reluctant entertainer.

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    Carmen says

    I am very much a reluctant entertainer – my husband and I just moved into a place that actually has room for more than just us, so I know it’s coming, but I’m anxious about it.

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    [email protected] says

    I try to push myself out of the reluctance, but still find myself there sometimes. I love her blog, I’m sure I’d love her book!!

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    Amanda says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer, and never calm before company comes! I look forward to reading her blog!

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    Melissa S says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer! I dream of having people over but that usually about as far as it gets. Our home is rather small (main floor is only 900 sq ft) and I never feel like it’s cute or clean enough to have folks over.

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    MemeGRL says

    I love the idea of this book–I identify completely! I’d love to have people over more often but it never seems to be the right moment. Going to check the blog now–the title and photos alone have me sold!

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    Gina says

    I get so wrapped up in homeschooling a large family that I put off using my spiritual gift of hospitality. So many times I rationalize that hospitality takes to much time and that I don’t have time. Looking through the index of Reluctant Entertainer I think it is just the motivation I need to get back to ministering to others by ways of entertaining!

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    Cecilia says

    I am still a reluctant entertainer. I love having people over, but don’t do it often enough because I worry about the cooking, cleaning, and other preparing that needs to be done.

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    Jenn says

    I love entertaining, but my husband and I tend to get so stressed out the day before. Does the house and the yard/flowerbeds all look good enough?? What if they don’t like what I cooked? Flowers or candles?
    I would love a copy of the book to help me through my planning and to give me some good tips for future parties!

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    Vanessa says

    Definitely – I’m not the best cook and I’m always looking at my house making sure it’s clean enough, doesn’t look cluttered, etc.

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    Sacha says

    I love the idea of entertaining but not all of the work that goes along with it. I would love to read this book and hopefully develop a different perspective about entertaining.

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    Jody H says

    This book looks fabulous! I would love to read it. I am often a reluctant entertainer. We always have a good time when we do entertain, it just seems so overwhelming to plan and host a get together.

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    Roxanne says

    I’m way too scare to host anything at my house. I had maybe one get together but its never as organized as I would want it to be.

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    Amy says

    Ooh – I need this. Life with small children makes entertaining – nicely – especially challenging…

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    Holly says

    Reluctant, but happy to do it. I just need more skills in pulling it all together.

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    Sarah N says

    I have enjoyed reading her blog for several years. Thanks for the great giveaway!

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    Judy says

    I am reluctant to entertain… and realize I need to relax to enjoy, but so hard to do.

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    Diane says

    I would say this is something I am working on still. I have started making strides this summer by having dinner parties but still feel anxious right before everyone comes. I am sure this book would really help me to keep moving forward!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Tricia says

    Definitely reluctant. My house just never seems clean *enough* for me, though I’m sure nobody but me notices.

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    Misty says

    I am a reluctant entertainer and know that I need to do better!!

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    Jo Anna says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. My husband is a Pastor, and it is part of his *job description* from the Bible to be given to hospitality. I have a lot of health issues, and so am always looking for ways to make it easier to open my home to others.

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    Rhonda says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer! I have a heart for hospitality; however, with a lack of experience, imagination and limited funds I become fearful to actually pursue it. I am so excited about reading her blog and hopefully winning one of her coveted books. Grace, peace and every blessing in Christ!

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    Brandy says

    I never could quite explain what I was…thank you for the title, reluctant entertainer! I obsess about the kids’ birthday parties, family dinners, hosting bunco, etc, I have no idea how I became an assistant who has to put together meetings, conferences, a yearly convention…I’m constantly on stress mode about everything being perfect.

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    MMM says

    I am a very reluctant entertainer! But want nothing more than to be a rockin’ hostess!

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    Sharon says

    Yes – it always seems like such an undertaking. And then when people are here and fun is being had I’m thinking ‘why don’t we do this more often?’ Thanks for your blog, and pointing out The Reluctant Entertainer.

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    Tiffany says

    I am absolutely a reluctant entertainer. I live in a small apartment and it’s hard to invite people over wondering where they will sit, etc!

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    Cathie says

    Perfectionism=reluctant entertaining. I am flattened by the anxiety that comes with just the thought of it.

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    Angie says

    I love entertaining…but I am so unorganized when it comes to planning!

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    April Vereb says

    I am defintely a reluctant entertainer! I love entertaining, just don’t feel my house is ever in perfect order to entertain!

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    Handy Man, Crafty Woman says

    I used to be “reluctant” before I knew what to do. But over time, and with more practice, I’ve grown to like entertaining. I don’t stress nearly as much anymore. Love her site, so glad for her that she has a book out now, how cool!

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    Susan Rees says

    I am a reluctant entertainer. I love people, hospitality and pretty things, good food and I like to share, BUT –it is stressful!

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    Danielle says

    I’m a reluctant entertainer for so many reasons…. I am a neat freak and can’t stand anyone in my home unless it is perfect, plus I an not totally confident in my cooking abilities.

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    Joanna says

    I’m totally a relunctant entertainer. I NEED this book 🙂

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    Rena says

    I would love this book. Even though I want to have people over, the thought freaks me out too. I’m definitely going to check out her blog too. Thanks for sharing!

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    KatherineBee says

    I have been a reluctant entertainer, but my husband and I just moved into our first house where we have space to entertain. I’ve always been to scared to invite people over because of how small our space has been and how busy our lives are, but would love to start having company over. Thank you!

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    Amanda says

    I am 35, and have always been a reluctanct entertainer. My mother didn’t entertain because the house was always cluttered and messy, and that sort of transferred onto me in my adult behavior. However, I’ve been working very hard (thanks to your blog and your links) to break the cycle, set new routines and organizing systems in my home. However, I still feel very anxious when I entertain because I feel inadequate in knowing how to pull it off – after all, I spend most of the prep time worried about the house looking clean instead of planning the party. I need help!

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    Kendra says

    I would love to have people over but it also stresses me out because I am a perfectionist as well. My husband and I are considering starting a church plant so I know “entertaining”/hosting people for meals will be increasing in our home so this book would be perfect.

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    Terri M says

    definitely a reluctant entertainer. feel like the house always looked “less nice” than my friend’s houses. so silly!

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    Gilda says

    I am totally a reluctant entertainer. Everyone says we have a great home for hosting events. Kids love playing in our “toy” room (living room taken over by toys). And we also have fun when we have people over. But we still find ourselves being reluctant to invite people over, feel like we scrabble to get the house “presentable” and don’t think our house compares to a lot of others who have “nice” homes.

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    marina says

    I used to be a reluctant entertainer till 2 months ago when I realized people visit us to spend time with us and enjoy our company.The five course meal isn’t worth it if I’m in the kitchen slaving away over the hot stove, snapping at Hubby and missing out on the conversation. Just serving a main course and enjoying the laughs is soooooo much more worth it!

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    Sandy says

    Oh my, look at all of these comments. Laura, you’ve really helped people in 4 years, too. It’s amazing the difference that women can make in blogworld and I’m grateful for readers, followers, and blogs like yours that I can glean from.

    Thank you for hosting this giveaway for my book today!

    Love & Inspiration!

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    Janel says

    I am pretty shy and even at other people’s parties I tend to gravitate to the fringes of the “action.” I really have to work up my courage to host an event in my own house.

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    Holly says

    I am definately a reluctant entertainer…always worried about falling short of perfection. I stress more about the food, presentation, etc than enjoying the company of good friend and family.

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    Robin says

    I have always had a desire to entertain, but like others, fears of inadequacy prevailed, and I stopped having people over. My home, my cooking and my ability to create a relaxing, enjoyable meal all fell under my critical eye. I have since learned that nobody’s home is perfect. Planning ahead and possessing a sincere desire to serve very nearly ensures a good time will be had by all.

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    maria says

    I unfortunately set very high expectations for myself when I am entertaining, which always takes away part of the fun of the gathering itself.

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    Donna Sanfilippo says

    I love to entertain but I’m a crazy person days before it happens, over analyzing details that only matter to me. Sandy’s blog has really helped me pull it together quicker and easier. Even my husband has noticed I’m not as stressed. I would love a copy of her book.

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    Sarah says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. I love the social aspect, but all the prep and organization that goes into just having a simple dinner party makes me never want to have anyone over!

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    Mindy says

    I didn’t used to be, when I was first married we couldn’t wait to use all of our new place settings, silverware, serving dishes, napkins, etc., etc. and entertain for whoever would come over. Unfortunately after having a couple of kids I would now have to declare myself a reluctant entertainer because I get stressed about not getting everything done right and in time. 🙁 Would love to win this book!

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    Renee G says

    I am middle aged and still a reluctant entertainer

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    Jenn Price says

    We are a military family. I love to entertain our church family. At our last base we had people over all the time. In the beginning I would fret over the house and preparations and try to make everything “perfect”. Then I realized they were not there to see my house, they were AT my house to fellowship with me! Then my foucs changed completely. I started to focus on what I was giving to them in the way of food and fellowship and not so much about my house. It made all the difference. I was able to spend the time with my guests focusing on them and not worrying about if I dusted the bookshelf.

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    Kathy says

    Yes, I am a reluctant entertainer. I get so worked up about my “clutter pockets” that I am known to loose sleep before having company!

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    Annie says

    I would love the book!! I love to have people over for dinner…but usually I’m so casual it would be nice to change it up a little.

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    Lisa McNeil says

    I am certainly a reluctant entertainer…my oldest is 4 years old, and we took her and my 2 year old out of daycare, so I feel it necessary to host play dates to nuture their social skills. Play dates led to other dates, like Super Bowl parties and movie nights. As much as I enjoy good company, I am not a social butterfly at heart so these events tend to lead towards anxiety bordering on panic attacks. I am working on planning and organization skills to overcome this problem. This book looks like it will be a great tool!

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    Tisha says

    I always run around like crazy before entertaining-everything has to be perfect!!

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    sue thompson says

    I am trying NOT to be a reluctant entertainer! But I do have tendency to want everything to be perfect. Trying to let go and be in the moment and let God be the center of the get together! LOVE her blog and can’t wait to see the book! (fingers crossed!)

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    Kiki says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer and a recovering perfectionist. I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis over 5 years ago and since then I have been in the mindset that it’s too exhausting and stressful to entertain. I would love to have a copy of this book and get some of Sandy’s tips and tricks so that I can comfortably and effortlessly share my home and my time with friends!

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    Cris says

    I am much improved yet still a reluctant entertainer. I love having people over but tend to become easily overwhelmed. If I haven’t taken the time to plan or if I try to “hyper perfect” the event, I end up crabby, exhausted and thus suck all of the fun out of it. LOL!
    Tonight we will be entertaining 7 of my daughters friends (ages11-13) overnight and Monday, we will be hosting a dinner for 10 family members. Ahhh! :o)

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    Elaine says

    Yup, I’m reluctant! I’m always too worried about the details and my house and space and everything else that I just think maybe it’s better if we all just go out somewhere lol.

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    Sarah Jane says

    I usually feel fine entertaining on the holidays, but in everyday situations I’m very reluctant! I’m worried people will think the meals we eat are weird. I’m a perfectionist when I can be, so for holidays I can plan ahead to my heart’s content. But I would be totally unprepared to have friends over for a meal, unless I can stop at GFS first :0)

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    Sheila Smith says

    I am definately a reluctant entertainer. I’m always worried if the house is clean enough or if i have the “right foods”.

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    Carol says

    Yes I’m a reluctant entertainer. Didn’t even know anyone else had written about this subject! Very comforting to know I’m not alone! And very comforting to know there might even be help for me!

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    Andrea says

    Reluctant & procrastinating entertainer! I expend too much energy to get everything right(and waste time) that I put off doing more entertaining… too few & far between. I’d love a copy. 🙂

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    Michelle Leichty says

    Yes I am definately a reluctant entertainer. I kill myself trying to make everything perfect and don’t end up enjoying the simple fact that everyone is together.

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    Lisa says

    I am such a nervous wreck when it comes to even the THOUGHT of entertaining! I guess a combination of perfectionism and fear keep me from doing it, even though deep down I would really love to do it!

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    Jori says

    I would love a copy of this book. I am absolutely a reluctant entertainer. I do it when I have to, but spend too much time and energy trying to make everything perfect. And of course, it never ends up being perfect and I feel disappointed and kind of like a failure. So this book would be a welcome read!

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    LaughingLady says

    I am TOTALLY a reluctant entertainer ~ I NEED THIS BOOK!! Plus I’m a fan of Sandy’s AND yours, so there you go. 😉

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    Milehimama says

    I am a reluctant entertainer. Messy house (and it’s always messy) and my kitchen table is too small even for our own family add up to make it hard to entertain!

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    Kristy Loneske says

    Yes I am a reluctant entertainer. I’m also going to her blog to subscribe. Thanks for letting us know about her.

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    Angie says

    I use to be a very reluctant entertainer! But now…..oh, heck! Who am I trying to kid…I still am!

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    Nikki says

    I am such a reluctant hostess, I wait till the last minute on everything and drive my husband crazy, he even says no more but I still try. I want to be a good hostess, and I have even been trying to organize my dinners and such in advance but no such luck.

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    Andrea says

    I have never been an entertainer, but I am eager to become one! Although it seems daunting!

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    Nancy says

    I picked up the RELUCTANT part of entertaining from my mom! First thing out of her mouth is always, what will I fix (to eat)! But after it’s all said and done I DO enjoy entertaining.

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    dixie says

    i never entertain. NEVER! i think this book might help me to come out of my comfort zone… btw, love your blog!!

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    Kim Harms says

    I hate to cook. I mean that with all of my heart. I’d prefer to scrub a toilet than to peel a potato. But, God has blessed me with more than I could ask for, including space in my house to welcome others in. I love having people over; it’s the cooking a meal for others that is a true service from me, because I don’t enjoy it. I think God giggles every time I invite a family over to dinner because he knows I love people and don’t love cooking.

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    Valerie says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. I am always so insecure about what I serve, and if it will be enough food and drink. I get really stressed out when I have to have a party. I have my son’s birthday party on Monday and I’m a ball of stress about it!

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    tracie thompson says

    i was brousing through the internet, actually looking for blogs on organization. i am a wife with 4 children, ranging in age 6-17. a couple years ago i became ill and on disability for a year, my husband also had to cut his hours to 1/2 days to help me. long story short, we lost our home. we have since been living in a townhome, a very small townhome, with no yard. i am greatful to God for supplying our needs. i love to cook, and entertain, yet i dont do so because of our quaint area. i would love to get some ideas on entertaining and just loving your guests without being so consumed with the idea of my home not being up to par. thanks for sharing your blog. it is inspirational.

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    PaulaK says

    I like to entertain but don’t do it very well! I am always looking for ideas for having little work to do during the actual event. Now, I do mostly pizza parties, cookouts, and the like but am trying to expand to more formal events. Can really use some help 🙂

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    Gena says

    I would love to win a copy of this book! I love to be able to have get-togethers with people, but when it comes to the actual day/time, I’m all a mess wanting it to all turn out right.

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    Kathy says

    Boy, am I a reluctant entertainer! Over the hill and still don’t cook. But hey I do own a can operner and a mircowave. When I have friends over they cook in my kitchen and bring the goodies. I need to find my way…I need this book!

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    I love entertaining – it’s finding the time to do it that’s tricky. I just landed here via Twitter. Where have I been?! Organization makes me giddy so I can’t wait to have a good look around! Have a great weekend!

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    Jessica B says

    Reluctant!!! I always worry that the house won’t look good enough, that there won’t be enough food or that the guests won’t enjoy it, I stress more than I bless!!

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    Lindsey R says

    I’m on the verge of a major shift….am loving our home so much and the simple/clutter-free space I’ve helped to create….ready to be an enthusiastic entertainer (after many years as a reluctant entertainer!)

    Thanks for a chance to win!

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    DeAnn says

    As soon as guests leave my house, I think to myself, “Why don’t I do this more often?” Then I quickly think, “Because I’m exhausted and my house is always a mess.” The argument continues on from there…”But life is about relationships, not having a dinner party worthy of a write-up in Martha Stewart Living magazine.” Etc. Etc…We moved into a beautiful house that is perfect for entertaining and I really want to take advantage of this space and be more hospitality-minded. I want to create opportunities to have people over because I really care about my friends not putting on a good show or trying to impress people.

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    Beth (A Mom's Life) says

    I am a total Reluctant Entertainer. I am having my parents and my BFF and her family over for a Labor Day cookout. These people are in my house all the time and yet I am still very nervous about this cookout – which is just hamburgers and hot dogs. I don’t know what’s wrong with me!

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    Dawn says

    I could really use this book! I have always had a prolem with waiting for everything to be “perfect” just to have a simple dinner.

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    Lisa says

    My mom was a reluctant entertainer and I think that is why I am not!

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    Lindsay T says

    I am longing to get this book! I hope I win this is just right up my alley! I am a reluctant entertainer 99% of the time basically because I dont know where to start! But with a new home I’m very excited to have all sorts of parties and dinners for friends and family! Hopefully this book will help!

    Thanks for another awesome giveaway! 😀

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    Victoria Taulbee says

    I dont think I ‘m a reluctant entertainer now. Would love to get the book and see.

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    Erin G says

    I am such a reluctant entertainer, sadly. My mother is also, so we rarely had people in our home growing up. I feel like I don’t even know how to make people feel welcome in my home, so I really need the help. If I don’t win, I am certainly buying this book.

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    DL Harmon says

    Oh, I so am! If it isn’t a HUGE party, I just don’t do it. We don’t have a huge party so we don’t do anything!

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    Kara says

    I love to entertain but don’t do it as often as I’d like because of needing enough time to get the house clean and organized, plan to perfect menu, etc. (and what three children, I don’t have that kind of time!) If I could cook dinner and bring it to someone else’s house…that would be WAY better!

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    Stephanie says

    I would love any tips on entertaining and showing hospitality . . . I have the best intentions . . . but “life” often gets in the way. Would be great to have some ideas/tips to just make it part of my “life”!

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    Martianne says

    I used to be an incredibly ambitious and happy entertainer – often hosting gatherings, meals and whatnot when I was single and lived and taught overseas. I just loved having folks over and dreamed of one day having my own home and family to share with others.

    Now, I have the husband, the house and the kids, but lack the “home”. In the five years we have owned a home and grown a family, I have become a reluctant entertainer. My house is a complete clutter fest. I shudder even when folks come over for playdates or for me to watch their kids. (I wonder WHY they would LET me watch their kids in not-yet-a-home house.) and dinner parties? No way! I just cannot conceive of hosting one anymore – much less an international soiree like I used to.

    Yes, my age and stage in life have made me a reluctant entertainer. And, that is something I long to change. My heart’s desire – and I think God’s desire – is, in part, to create welcoming home. The Reluctant Entertainer might give me some inspiration to do so. So, thank you for hosting the giveaway.

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    [email protected] says

    Sometimes I am a reluctant entertainer…usually because I don’t feel prepared enough. I really need to be better about focusing more on the connection with friends than about what my bathroom sink looks like if they come over.

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    Kimberley says

    I am a horrible and extremely reluctant entertainer! This book is calling my name!

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    Starberry says

    I am a reluctant entertainer when one or more of my family has a bad attitude about it (which makes it hard for me to balance my guests’ needs and my family’s needs) OR when the people I’m entertaining aren’t considerate (hmmm, loving those who are hard to love, sounds like something Jesus would do…).

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    Shannon Crayne says

    I would entertain more, but I just don’t have the confidence. I find myself obsessing over my menu, if the guest will like the atmosphere, and all that good stuff. I could really use this book!

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    Maria says

    It kind of depends. I am always reluctant about getting started, but enjoy having people over when they’re here.

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    Kristi says

    Do not like to entertain, maybe this will help! 🙂

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    Melody says

    I became more reluctant when our kids got to preschool age and were reluctant to sit at the table and eat anything! I struggle with inviting people over when I know that managing my kids takes center stage over conversation.

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    Shonda says

    I’m probably the worst entertainer and I’m married to the best entertainer. I really need help. I shy away from entertaining because I have no confidence.

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    Kori says

    I’m more paranoid of what people will think of their experience at my house. I’m convinced they’ll never want to come over again or something!

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    screwdestiny says

    Would love to win a copy! I consider myself a reluctant entertainer because I want to have parties and have friends over and host dinner and everything, but I’m just so worried that everyone’s going to have a bad time or be bored or whatever, and so I don’t do it. 🙁

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    tzigane says

    i love Sandy and her blog!
    i guess you could say that i have runt he gamet of entertaining. i used to like to have people over and then i found out that some people we had had over a couple of times had made negative comments about my house and such and then i became a reluctant entertainer. which is bad since my husband is a pastor! we have been out of that church/ministry area for two years now and i am really anticipating being in our own home and a new church ministry and can’t wait to start entertaining. i am older and somewhat wiser now so i know better than to let untrue comments hurt me or my joy of entertaining

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    Rebecca says

    I love entertaining in theory, but find that I get am so uptight when people actually come over, I have never enjoyed it when the evening is over. I’m working on this every time I have someone over!

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    Karon says

    I am recluctant entertainer, not because my heart is not there, but because I always feel like my house is too small and cramped. I have de-cluttered recently and made some more room, so now I feel much more free to open up my home. 🙂

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    Mandy W says

    I totally am a reluctant entertainer! I do nothing but worry. I’ve gotten better (I think) but I still don’t enjoy it.

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    Carol says

    I am a must-make-everything-perfect entertainer that gets strung out and it is hard to relax and enjoy the event. This book sounds awesome!

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    Paige McLean says

    I would loveto win a copy! 😉

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    Angela says

    I’m always reluctant before the guest come over, but once they’re here, I enjoy them!

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    Rebecca says

    I still am a reluctant entertainer. What if my guest don’t like my cooking, what will they think of my small humble home, what will they think of my decorating style, so on and so on.
    This is something I have been working on the past year and would love to own this book!

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    Tara says

    I’m a reluctant entertainer because I always feel like things just aren’t perfect enough… yuck. Don’t like that feeling.


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    Lisa says

    Oh yes, I am a reluctant entertainer! There is a huge disconnect between the beautiful and elegant images in my mind (of a party, or dinner, or whatever) and the reality of stuff shoved in closets and parrot poop on the floor. I get so overwhelmed trying to make everything perfect, and of course I never live up to my own expectations, which inevitably results in stress and not enjoying the opportunity to show hospitality. This is the first I’ve heard of this website and book, and I’m excited to check out both!

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    Amy Ragland says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer! Nothing is ever “perfect” enough to have people over. And hosting takes a lot of energy! I’m trying to overcome it, though.

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    Heather Dougherty says

    Oh My! I need this book! I actually wish I knew how to entertain, need this book!

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    Jane says

    I would love to win a copy. I’m a reluctant entertainer due to being a discouraged perfectionist. Some parts of my life are organized while others are a total mess. I would like to truly enjoy having people over without stressing about every detail. It would be nice to include my 4 kids in prepping without passing on the stress of the preperation…totally not fun for them :)!

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    Holly Krause says

    I am always a reluctant entertainer. I never know what to cook. I always worry if people will have fun. I worry myself about it so much that I rarely ever entertain. I wish I could feel more secure. I would love to entertain more.

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    Pam says

    Doesn’t the house have to be perfect? Doesn’t the meal have to taste delicious and have 5 different courses? Don’t the kids have to be well behaved at all times? Sigh.

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    becca says

    I guess I’d call myself a reluctant entertainer, although it doesn’t stop me from entertaining. I’ve definitely gotten much more laid back over the years, though!

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    Marilyn Holeman says

    Yes, I’m often a reluctant entertainer. “My house is too messy, my house it too small, the yard hasn’t been weedwhacked . . .” Fortunately, my family doesn’t always let me get away with it–and I’m usually glad!

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    Heather says

    The older I get the less I am concerned about having everything be perfect & so I am more open to entertaining. I have made all the mistakes-ruined dinner, realized too late my toddler pooped in the potty & didn’t flush, forgot the wine, etc. etc. etc. Now that I’ve gotten over making things perfect I am so much more relaxed & have so much more fun-which means I am no longer reluctant. 🙂

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    Elizabeth KS says

    Even hearing the concept gives me chills – thats the perfect name for me!! I get so panicked the night before I can’t sleep, the day I’m a loon and then during – during I can’t even enjoy the lovely company of family and friends because I’m constantly worried about a placecards or appetizers or whoknowswhat. A beautiful book like this that helps take the hesitation and fears out of entertaining so maybe I can host and still have fun – dare to dream!

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    Lisa says

    With two little ones at home (2 1/2 and 10 mo.), it seems like the only time we see friends is by having them over, but I’m too much of a perfectionist that I get too stressed about inviting people over, especially when the house always seems like it’s a disaster, and then figuring out what to make etc, stresses me out. Sounds like I need this book!

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    Mel says

    I’m definitely a reluctant entertainer, but I’m always glad after we have had company over – because it is so fun!

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    Suzanne says

    I used to be the consummate hostess; I just loved it! Then I had three kids in 36 months and life got in the way, and now I’m terrified. I worry that my newer casual way of entertaining won’t stand up to my old. So I don’t bother. And that’s not me. So Sandy’s work is right up my alley these days.

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    Lindsey says

    I live with my parents, but I can say that if I entertained, I would be a reluctant entertainer!

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    Andie says

    I grew up seeing my mom entertain. But when I got married and especially now with kids I’m at a loss as to what to do and where to start. You could almost say I have anxiety about it and I get paralyzed to the point that I don’t do it because I want everything perfect. But life isn’t perfect and especially with kids, things are busy.

    I could really use this book!

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    Rachel says

    My husband and I recently moved into a new home. Needless to say, I am reluctant to entertain because my house is no where near perfect, let alone out of boxes. On top of that, we have an energetic toddler who manages to disassemble any means of organization I’ve accomplished. Starting the unpacking and redecorating process is leaving me overwhelmed at times. I’m thankful to God, who has moved us closer to our church, which was our desire for the intent of hospitality. However, I could use an inspirational book for the art of entertaining. 🙂

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    debbiek says

    I’m always concerned my guests will be bored or if there is a cobweb somewhere I didn’t see.

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    Laura Aridgides says

    I guess I would call myself a reluctant entertainer. My parents never entertained much, and since my Mom has spent half my life as a single Mom, she was busy working and taking care of her children, rather than entertaining. My Dad does entertain sometimes, but since I had already moved away from home when he really started entertaining, I didn’t see much of that either.
    The book sounds great, as I would love to have more people over more frequently.

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    nancy says

    I’ve been following RE for quite some time now. I just love her great ideas for entertaining. By the way, I have bookmarked your site for future visits! I spent w a y too much time on here today!

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    Lesley says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. My mom never entertained, so I really didn’t have anyone to model after. My friends all seem to make it look easy and they always look relaxed! I am 45 with teenagers and I even get a little nervous when my kids bring friends over to hang out, but I am relaxing a little bit. The book sounds great!

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    Susan says

    Totally a Reluctant entertainer! I lack confidence and the thinking ability to make it all happen! My siblings are amazing! What happened in the gene pool to me???
    Would love to be entered into the giveaway!

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    Missneatfreak says

    Wow I really would love to read this book!
    I am a pastor’s wife in a church of 550. We have 3 preschoolers, and there are alot of young families like us. I hesitate to invite them over due to the menu and chaos in the kitchen. I would rather visit than cook!

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    Michelle says

    I supscribe to the Reluctant Entertainer and love her blog. She has such great ideas. I wish I was creative like that. In my line of work, I host open houses a couple of times a year were my customers come over. I work my but off to make sure everything is clean and organized and that everything is set up nicely. I want to impress my customers and make them feel comfortable.

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    Sara says

    Oh yes! I used to entertain all the time but I feel like since my daughter was born I just haven’t been as comfortable having people over. I feel like I can’t keep our house clean enough anymore…. But I know that’s not actually what it’s about! I would love to read this book!

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    jan says

    I am a VERY reluctant entertainer. My house never seems ready to entertain. I need HELP. I’d love to read and implement this book!!!

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    Kelly O says

    I’m definitely a reluctant entertainer – something of a perfectionist and worried that things won’t be “nice enough” for guests. We’re getting ready to move VERY quickly and are expecting a baby during the same time frame, so I know entertaining will be an important thing for me. I’d love to read Sandy’s book and learn how to let go of some of my own hang-ups.

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    Heather F says

    I’m reluctant to admit how reluctant I am to invite people to our home. I worry about EVERYTHING and my need for perfection constantly gets in the way. I am first to volunteer our home when people ask for a place to get together and then I go crazy staying up late the night before preparing and going over everything again and again. And then I’m never ready when the doorbell rings — and want to run and hide! I would love to receive this beautiful book.

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    Leslie says

    I was, still am, and probably always will be! 🙂

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    Nicole says

    I have been a reluctant entertainer because I am a perfectionist and want everything done right. At times I have felt that if I can’t do it “perfect”…I won’t do it at all. I am learning to overcome this and just enjoy having company over.

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    Marie says

    Yes, I definitely am a reluctant entertainer. With 6 kiddos running around, I want to relax in peace and quiet, not entertaining people.

    Wonderful giveaway!

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    Tara says

    I, too, am a reluctant entertainer. I have big dreams and inspirations but then… nothing! Would love to read this book!

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    Katie says

    I am reluctant because I’m always afraid my meal will flop!

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    Mindy says

    I’m still very much a reluctant entertainer because I’m a perfectionist and stress so much about what to make, etc. that I end up talking myself out of entertaining at all! It sounds like I really need this book. The only people that I don’t mind having over is my sister and her family (live 3 hours from us) & my parents (live across the country from us) because I’m just so happy to see them that it doesn’t really matter what I serve or do.

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    erica says

    i am an extrovert with introverted tendencies. thus, having people over can sometimes be overwhelming. but marrying my OVERLY extroverted husband has made me want to host more events and have people over..especially because we just bought our FIRST HOUSE this month!! 🙂

    so i need help. and i would LOVE to have a copy of this book!!!!!

    thanks! love your blog

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    Diane S says

    I feal reluctant when we start to plan for company, once we get going things start to fall into place.

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    Living So Abundantly says

    I would honestly love this book. When I first got married 6 years ago, I was learning to cook. It scared me to have people over. The first time I had our pastor and his wife, I made a recipe I had made once before. I was making garlic cheese biscuits, which we loved. The only problem: instead of Bisquick, I had bought the wrong kind of mix. The biscuits were flat as a pancake, but everyone was so kind. The conversations about youth group were so productive(we were starting to help out with the youth), and it was a real connecting time. That helped me get over my fear of having to be perfect. I would love to read this book for more inspiration!

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    Kristiana says

    I’m definitely a reluctant entertainer!
    Wait, no I’m not!
    Oh, yes I am!
    Well…not always…sometimes…I’m inconsistently reluctant!

    This book looks amazing!

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    Jenna says

    I’m definitely a reluctant entertainer…. We hosted our first “party” last year at Christmas. Other than kids birthdays, we don’t really entertain, though I’d like to do more.

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    Linda Kish says

    I am still a reluctant entertainer at 60. I usually choose a restaurant for entertaining. Less stress for me.

    lkish77123 at gmail dot com

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    Loretta says

    I am definetly a reluctant entertainer. I feel like I am so limited because of space. If I have more than one family the place is like a zoo, with all the children going through where we are trying to visit. It is much better for me to entertain when the weather is suitable for children to be outside. Also it seems if I manage to get my house clean, then the food hasn’t gotten made or vice versa.

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    Jill says

    I am currently reluctant because I think I have to clean the entire house in order to entertain and don’t feel like I have it together. I do love to cook though!

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    Gale C. says

    I am am definitely a reluctant entertainer. My mother only let people in our house when she had cleaned and cooked for days. I’m always afraid that they’ll see a dirty spot I missed.

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    April in CT says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. I worry so much about having everything ready I find it hard to enjoy the actual party and guests. I hope I win, this book looks great!

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    Liz Ward says

    I have been in the past but I finally decided that if someone were coming to my home to see how it looked instead of to see me then I didn’t need them in y life.

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    Debbie says

    When my husband & I first married, I was a reluctant entertainer, and I married not only a pastor, but the world’s most extroverted man! It was a constant source of strain on me and on our marriage. Gradually, I have learned to enjoy and to prepare certain things in advance so I can handle those spur-of-the-moment invitations my dear hubby loves to make. I’d love to have some fresh ideas from this book!

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    Susanne says

    I would love this book for the wonderful inspiration!

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    Lisa says

    I am very passionate about cooking, very much a people person and I would love to show my love for people through cooking, however I am very much the reluctant entertainer too for so many different reasons. I was so surprised to hear that someone else felt that way too and to write about it. I would have never imagined. I am excited to read Sandy’s blog and hopefully learn things that will help me overcome my issues.

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    kathy says

    I would love to win a copy of this book to help me overcome my nervousness with entertaining. I have a home and family I am very proud of, but the thought of having others over including family just makes me a nervous wreck. Thanks for the great giveaway!

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    Andrea says

    I come up with so many excuses, it’s ridiculous. It’s always when our house is cleaner, we have more furniture, the weather is nicer… and so.

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    Mia J. says

    I like to entertain but have a hard time actually getting started and inviting people. I need help on the food issue as I always have food that is good but not anything too special. I would love to have some entertaining ideas.

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    Jennifer says

    Definitely a reluctant entertainer here! Especially when my mother in law visits.

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    Lisa says

    I can’t wait to read this book. I need all the tips I can get!

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    Samara Link says

    Yes, I am! I’ve gotten a lot better in the last couple of years … learning to do a little more prep work the day before, including setting the table. I clean every Thursday now. So, I’m not rushing to plan, clean, shop, cook, and present all on the day of. Anyway, better doesn’t mean I’m polished at it, and I still hesitate. This book looks really interesting. I’ll have to check out her blog. Thanks for letting us know about her!

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    [email protected] says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. Part of it is my fear that people won’t come if I invite them. But I do love to have company. Maybe this book will bring me out of my shell a bit. I will check out her blog!

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    Anne says

    Having 2 and 4 yr old boys has made me a very reluctant entertainer! It was fun to “host” my block’s national night out block party this summer, because it was out on the street. No house cleaning required!

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    beth says

    Reluctant entertainer??? Um yeah, more like not an entertainer because I rarely have people over except for my kid’s bday parties. I would like to change that so I really need the book!! 😉

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    Laurie says

    I used to not be reluctant to entertain at all! I was more than willing, didn’t stress me out….. I don’t think I had it all together, but I just didn’t stress about it…….for some reason and I really don’t know why…….it is a HUGE stress to me now.
    To host something in my home takes a great deal out of me, I become not so nice to my family, and become very overwhelmed……it’s foolish, and I know, but it seems I just can’t help it!

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    jaime says

    I’m a reluctant entertainer… My house is never clean enough, I don’t have the right food/drinks to serve. I make my poor husband crazy before we have any company cleaning, scouring and generally freaking out! I probably need a shrink instead of a book, but the book would be a good start 😉

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    Rebecca says

    Yes! Still a reluctant entertainer. I don’t feel I have the space, items to create a nice tablescape or people to invite that would appreciate my efforts. Plus the house has to be ‘just so’ and it still never seems good/warm/welcoming enough.

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    Debra says

    I’m very reluctant. I feel my house isn’t clean enough so I stress about that. I stress about entertainment, I feel like I have to be able to entertain everyone. However, I did break way out of my comfort zone this summer. Though not exactly by choice. My daughter got married in our backyard, so I say, “I hosted a party for 100” though the entertainment was provided by my daughter and her husband.

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    Ginny says

    I don’t mind entertaining, even though I go a bit crazy getting ready for company. I would love to have people over, especially at this point in my life where circumstances have left me feeling very lonely, but my husband told me that he doesn’t like to have people over. He later recanted, but I’m not sure I believe him. So perhaps if I win the book, I’ll have him read it!

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    Kristi says

    I would love to win a copy of this book! I am a recovering reluctant entertainer. While I love to open our home, I fight my type-A, “everything has to be perfect” attitude to be gracious with guests and not follow them around to wipe up after them if they drop a crumb on my floor! *sigh* Did I just confess that on a strangers blog? 🙂 All that to say, I probably need to read this book!

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    Meghan says

    I used to entertain all the time when I was single… now with craziness of life, it never seems to happen! I’m too much of a perfectionist!

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    Alexia says

    I’m a total reluctant entertainer! I rarely invite people over because I’m just completely clueless – I’m sure it doesn’t help that I’m pretty much a hermit and run out of conversation after about 5 minutes! LOL

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    Cinella says

    Oh boy… I’ve been waiting for this book to come out! We have almost all our family near by and I have been wanting to entertain but so reluctant!

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    pinkbeary says

    I am the ultimate reluctant entertainer, until my guest(s) arrive. I stress out about everything. But when my friends or family arrive, it is good to have fellowship with them.

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    Cami Halkides says

    I love to entertain and used to do it much more than I do now. Having four children 4 and under has definitely made me a reluctant entertainer!

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    Eleanor Joyce says

    I love having people over…and enjoy every minute once they get here. But before-hand I stress waaay too much and I’d love to get over that. Would LOVE to win this book!

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    Legacy Leaver says

    I was raised by, and am, a total perfectionist. If the house doesn’t look like a magazine, the smell of bleach isn’t in the air, you can’t eat off the floors, then my house (and I) don’t feel presentable. It’s such a stumbling block. With an infant, a 3 y.o., and 2 tweens, perfection is never gonna happen. And cooking?! Raised as a Southern Belle and now transplanted north, I find myself unable to figure out how to cook for people here confidently. This book sounds like just the thing to help me break down the barriers to furthering the relationships my family needs.

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    Jenny says

    I don’t mind the entertaining aspect… like so many others, it’s the perfectionist cleaning that takes place before the event which is my downfall… my poor husband knows to stay clear of me when I am in “work mode” prior to a get together (he usually volunteers to do the bathrooms- probably because he knows that is out of my direct path!)…

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    Christine says

    I am a reluctant entertainer wishing I had the time, energy and clean house to entertain more.

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    Cheryl Jaeger says

    Thanks for introducing me to The Reluctant Entertainer and the chance to win her book. I seem to be the Haphazard Entertainer, as I never seem to have it together.

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    Ashli Welsh says

    I don’t mind the entertaining, I just wish I had more notice sometimes. I once had my husband tell me 30 minutes prior to their arrival that we were having an overnight guest. With small children, our house wasn’t exactly in ‘guest’ shape! This book sounds wonderful!

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    Cristy says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer! I want to share time and fellowship with my friends, but once the date arrives of a scheduled event, I’m paralyzed with fear that I won’t be able to carry it off. The book sounds wonderful.

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    Beth says

    I am the SUPER reluctant. I’d love to have someone over for tea and cake, but where do I find the time to decorate? Bake? And entertain?

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    Susan says

    I wish that I could entertain more…I know that the Bible tells us to practice hospitality. Thanks to Sandy for stressing the spiritual importance of entertaining.

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    Susan says

    I used to not entertain because my house wasn’t “big enough” and there was nothing for the kids “to do”. Now we moved into a roomier home with a pool (instant entertainment for kiddos) and I still find myself somewhat “reluctant”. I have followed Sandy’s blog for about a year now, and find it is just what I need. She has taught me to conquer my perfectionism, but I am currently still struggling with making the time to entertain. Seems like I think one day I will have nothing to do and then I will have time to have people over. I have found that if I plan ahead and go ahead and invite people, then somehow I always make the time, and am so happy I did. I would LOVE a copy of Sandy’s book, as she is such an inspiration to me!

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    Enjoy Birth says

    I am a very reluctant entertainer. I find that I can have people over for dessert, but even that is stressful!

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    Ludim says

    entertaining is definitely overwhelming – i’d love to read the reluctant entertainer!!

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    Brenda says

    I am a reluctant entertainer. I do it for 2 main reasons. A) I feel my house is too small. The top main floor is 700 sq ft. I just cringe!!
    B) I feel my house is never clean enough. There are 4 of us that live in this small home.
    I LOVE to cook. I LOVE to have friends and family over if I can get over my “fears”. I do have to say that I am planning on hosting a Shrimp Boil in a few weeks in my back yard. I am a nervous wreck!! Oh, I would LOVE to read this book!! If I don’t win I am going to request it at my local library. I’m sure I’m not the only one.

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    Wendy says

    I’m not a reluctant entertainer…I am a regretful entertainer! My mouth usually speaks before I really think about it and before you know it there are guests at my door…again 🙂 I never want to miss out on a chance to gather with friends and create memories…really it is what life is all about. Of course if there’s something to help take the stress out of the process, well, then, sign me up. Sounds like Sandy’s book will just fit the bill.

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    anna p. says

    For me it really depends on who is coming over. I have several friends that I can relax about and just enjoy their company no matter how perfect or unperfect everything is. There are others who I stress out at the thought of having them over. I do love to entertain though!

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    Cindi says

    You had me at “ministry”….Let it be in my life…..let it be!
    Thank you….for the encouragement…

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    Christa Tilley says

    Wow! There are a lot of us out there who are nervous about entertaining guests. We sure do need to stick together though. This would book would be a great encouragement to help us improve:) Thanks for featuring it.

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    Katie S says

    I am a young mother of 3 and just recently purchased our first home. I would love to entertain but feel so overwhelmed with making my house presentable and keeping the kids behaved. Thanks for the book give away. It would be very helpful in my home!

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    Sue says

    G’morning and yes add me to the list, cause other than my two girls and their families, I too am reluctant to entertain, don’t ask me why, I am a good cook, but just feel if I have folks over maybe just maybe that would be the time that things wouldn’t turn out so we don’t entertain.. meet at a restaurant yes sure but thats not the same as having it here at our home.. and I’m sure this home has seen lots of entertaining.. but not since we have been in it 🙁 🙁 anyways Thanks for listening…!!

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    Kari says

    Yes! Can I join the reluctant entertainer club. My house never seems clean enough, uncluttered enough, cute enough to have folks over, but I would love to have friends share our home with us if I could just get past that (and find a few more hours in the day!) Thanks for sharing!

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    Erica says

    I’m a newlywed, living in our new home, in a new city, and I am a reluctant entertainer. I would love to have old and new friends over to show them our new home, but have no idea where to start! I would love this book! 🙂

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    Jennifer says

    I’m a reluctant entertainer. I love having people over but our house is small and is always messy.

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    Denni says

    I used to love to have friends over before I got married and had kids. Now I don’t want to invite anyone over if the house can’t be perfect. Since that is not possible, most of my friends have never even seen our house in the eight years we have lived here. I would love to have birthday parties and bbqs here.

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    Shannon says

    I love to entertain, but definitely need some cute, fun ideas. I’d LOVE to have this book!

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    Kathy V says

    We make our living on our farm, and the whole family is involved, (including me, the mom) so entertaining gets put on the back shelf. I tend to get worked up about the details and the time it will take to get ready…I have been reading more about the fact that the invitation and time spent with guests is more important to them than the details. I’d love to learn to live that reality, and put the anxiety behind, and begin to enjoy the entire process, being hospitable as the Scriptures tell us. I desire that to become a part of my nature so that my family and others will be blessed much more often.

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    Bren says

    I am often but but not *always* a reluctant entertainer. I LOVE to cook – and am pretty good at it – but often getting everything to come together when you have a mixed group (work people, church people) can be a challenge. And heaven knows, NO ONE can pull that together like a Southern woman!

    Thanks for this an all your other fabulous and generous resources!

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    Sharon says

    This looks like a great book!!!

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    Sherry says

    At 62, I am so “not-together” and have always been the Reluctant Entertainer. I so look forward to reading Sandy’s book. I am sure I will learn a wealth of tips and encouragement, and hopefully that needed “boost” to do my own entertaining. Bless you both.

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    Susan Billie Taylor says

    I have recently been renewing college friendships. We are all finding one another because of Facebook. I would love to have them over, but I’m a very reluctant entertainment. I really need this book to teach me how to entertain. I don’t know how. I’m a good cook, but need help. I’d love to win!

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    Kathryn says

    I find entertaining very stressfull! I would love to have company over all the time but I focus more on things looking perfect then enjoying my time with people. So, I very rarely have people over. I would really like to change that.

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    brandi says

    “Reluctant Entertainer” is the perfect title! Even though I think hospitality is such an amazing gift to others, I have such anxiety over inviting people over for dinner! I would love to get Sandy’s book!

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    Dawn says

    I love to have friends over but it is so hard to get the house clean and everything perfect. I guess true friends really don’t care , they just enjoy the company!

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    Karla says

    I am the MOST reluctant entertainer I know. I am hoping this book makes me a better and more frequent one!

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    Nonalee says

    I relate to the concept of being a reluctant entertainer. I always feel my house is too cluttered to have a relaxing dinner party. Too much clutter, never clean enough…

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    Brenda says

    The title “reluctant entertainer” describes me perfectly. As I get older, I find that I don’t have the time or energy to keep my house the way that I would like to. Chasing after 3 children, and just living life leave me with zero time to do the things that I would like to. I need this book! In fact, I’ve invited 18 people to come for a Barb-B-Q and I’m dreading having them come. My house shows wear, the garden is full of weeds and produce waiting to be processed and it is so hot and humid outside… I can’t seem to “pull it together”… I’m sure that this book would have some great suggestions.

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    Katie says

    I really am a reluctant entertainer. I’ve never been one of those wives/moms who can make a dinner party for 10 out of thin air, which is something I should be able to do on occasion.

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    Crista says

    Like many others, I am still a reluctant entertainer. Our apartment is small and always messy and I’m embarrassed to have people over, even tho I would love to entertain!

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    Kerri says

    While we always have good intentions to have people over, the work involved and money we have to put out to have a nice meal (or nicer than we would have if we didn’t have company over!) just changes our minds. BUT we’re working on that!

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    Amanda Bailey says

    My daughter recently turned 6 years old and in order to avoid hosting a house full of kids, I only invited the few who live directly around us- five kids total. Murphy’s law kicked in, and only one showed. The rest were either at their Dads’s house for the weekend, or got the stomach flu, or just plain didn’t show. I felt terrible for not inviting more kids so that my daughter could have an awesome birthday party, but thankfully she wasn’t bothered by it and she her one friend had a ball! Unlimited turns at Pin the Tail on the Donkey, anyone?

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    Cheryl says

    Seems the older I become, the more anxious I am about entertaining. Its always a lot of negative talk and now I find myself
    only entertaining for occassions like my daugther’s birthday. I would love to get some fresh ideas to push through and start enjoying my friends more.

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    Jennifer says

    I love the idea of having friends or neighbors over, but I start worrying the morning before they come over that everything will fall apart. I was relieved today when the friends we asked to come over for dinner had other plans. I really wanted them over but was feeling overwelmed.

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    Karen says

    I still am! I tend to go over the top with the cooking, etc, and then I am so tired and stressed that when people arrive, I really just want to go to sleep!

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    Sue says

    I was searching for a blog on home organizing and found yours! I love the title of this book and would love to own it! I went on our library’s site and found they didn’t have it yet…so I suggested they buy it! Hope to read it soon as a reluctant entertainer myself!

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    Sue says

    I am a reluctant entertainer because my house is so cluttered. There is barely anyplace for someone to sit. The kitchen table it cluttered and the living room is cluttered with toys. My daughter asked me at the end of preschool in May if some of her friends could come play during the summer and I said “sure, as soon as we clean up this house.” well, the summer is over and not one friend came over to play and I didn’t have any friends over either. I am planning on working on that when both kids go back to school on Tuesday.

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    Suzie says

    52 and just starting to get over it!

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    Lee Privette says

    I love people and love to have them over, I just wish that I was better at doing it gracefully 🙂

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    Megan says

    I am sometimes a reluctant entertainer because with 3 small children it can be a lot of work to entertain, but it is always a blast!

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    TallyMichelle says

    Oh yes, yes I am.

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    Amy Lynne says

    What a beautiful book! I would love to win a copy!

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    Melinda says

    I have the “party house” which is good b/c when my 4 kids are tired I can put them to bed and keep on partying. I love having people over and have learned over the years that the house is “good enough”. I like the lived in look of my house and little fingerprints on windows and tvs. They are not going to be little forever. I would rather enjoy my family, then clean 24/7. I try to do things in advance, which helps the stress level stay low. I always manage to pull it together, but would love some ideas for decorating and table setting, etc. I enjoy reading both sites! Thanks for all the inspiration!

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    Sue Kelly says

    I went to preview the book “Reluctant Entertainer” via your blog and the pictures alone are beautiful even of the messy kitchen…what a concept showing life as it happens. How wonderful. Thanks

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    Jamie Cody says

    I am extremely reluctant to entertain, not only because I feel like my house isn’t nice enough and there’s not enough room, but especially because I have psoriasis extremely bad and I don’t feel comfortable being around people. I hope to be able to get treatment soon and have clear skin once again, and we are trying to sell our current home and buy a really nice house in the city. I’d really love this book. It would make a nice birthday gift for me. I’ll be 41 tomorrow.

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    Paula says

    I love to cook have friends and family gather together with us in our home. The food usually turns out great but my poor time management skills and lack of organization seem to cause me to feel disappointed after everyone leaves. I have these wonderful ideas for nice tablescapes but fail to allow enought time to get it all together. I would love to have a copy of this book.

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    Barbara says

    I am such a reluctant entertainer. I want to have people over but can’t seem to pull myself together to do it. This book seems like it could be a big help. Thanks for having the giveaway.

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    Jackie says

    I think at times I am and it usually is because I just don’t feel I have the time to put into it….yet, I do love to have people over and very much enjoy having a simple meal prepared…usually try to have most of it done ahead of time. I would love to have more ideas and I think this book is just what would help…thanks!

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    Christine says

    I am told I am a great hostess and that it is a gift of mine. But wow, lemme just say I would never call it a gift. I agonize and wonder if people are having fun and even when they are gone I hope they felt welcome and want to come back. What a great giveaway…

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    Michele @ Frugal Granola says

    I think God has really grown me out of the “reluctant” part over the years, and now I love embracing hospitality. I’ve learned how to just keep it simple, and focus on the people, not the “stuff’ of entertaining. I’d love to read this book!

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    Caren says

    I would love to get this book!! I have ABSOLUTELY would have been Reluctant Entertainer!!!!! For years my husband has wanted to entertain more..but it has been really hard for me to enjoy having people over…I would like to be a better host..

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    elle says

    I have a small house and worry that guests will feel crowded!! 🙂

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    ferchi says

    Definitly, I need it. I need help for my next party. Thank you

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    Saskia says

    Being so limited with my time, I am definitely a reluctant entertainer…although when I do, I am so happy to have had people over to the house…

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    Cassie says

    Unfortunately, I still tend to be a reluctant entertainer in some ways. On one hand, I love to have people over and share what I’ve prepared for them. On the other hand, I always feel like the house isn’t quite clean enough or the food isn’t quite good enough. I need to just sit back and enjoy my company!

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    Taya says

    I would say that I’m a reluctant entertainer, but I’m blaming my house. It has a serious lack of space!

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    Karen says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. I would like to change that, however.

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    jgenie says

    I’m always running around until the last minute trying to make the house presentable – it certainly puts a damper on entertaining.

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    Darcy B says

    I’m a reluctant entertainer–with 3 teens our budget is tight, and we are always having emergencies–I think if I had “mad” money I would be much more open to entertaining.

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    Debbi Does Dinner Healthy says

    Are you kidding? I am totally a reluctant entertainer! I always find excuses for people NOT to come over. My house is too small, I’m afraid my kids will start fighting! Ugh! This book sounds perfect, thanks!

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    Carol says

    I am still a Reluctant Entertainer, it seems I barely have enough energy to keep things going on a normal basis, never mind adding more people to take care of!

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    Naomi says

    Mt reluctance to entertain is ALWAYS related more to the state of my house than my cooking skills. I don’t fear food prep/cooking, even for big groups, but I always fear that people will judge me based on my housekeeping skills and wonder what they will notice about my house that I haven’t noticed myself.

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    Linda R. says

    I’m more reluctant than ever to entertain now that we have moved into our “dream fixer-upper.” It makes having company a little more stressful.

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    Holly says

    I love to entertain, but I’m still reluctant in doing so. I believe it boils down to basic insecurity and self doubt. Most times the food is the most stressful part of preparing for any event, small or big.

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    Barb S. says

    I still am a Reluctant Entertainer to some degree! Being introverted, it’s hard for me to socialize for too long. I’d love to read this book.

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    Karen L says

    Definitely! We LOVE to have people over but I get so stressed with everyone hanging around the kitchen asking when they can do to help! It’s like “Get out of my kitchen & just let me get organised!!” Would love to win a copy of this book to get some tips!

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    Caroline says

    I am a reluctant entertainer! I always think the house is not clean enough. I am worried that the food will taste good. I am worried about getting all the food out and ready at the same time. Worried that the guests will like my food. I don’t feel that I am the best decorator. After I do entertain everyone always seems very happy as do I . But, the days and hours before guests arrive are so stressful!

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    Cindy O says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer! Both my husband and I have always been shift workers so we have rarely got a chance to entertain. So I don’t get much practice. That coupled with the fact that I missed out on my mother’s “amazing cook” gene make for some seriously high stress levels and last minute panic when we do actually have guests over!

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    Sarah says

    I would love a copy:)

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    Callie says

    I love having people over, but yes, I do feel the reluctance at first sometimes as I look around at all the work that needs to be done before they arrive. But I find it’s a mind game, I just have to remind myself again and again why they are coming over, and it’s not to give my house the white glove inspection tour. 🙂

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    Denise Gee says

    I’m a Reluctant Entertainer. It seems like so much work, and what if i don’t do everything just right? I’m too much of a perfectionist I guess.

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    Sheri Armour says

    I am reluctant to have dinner parties because I dont think I am a good enough cook and my food will turn out gross. Also I live in a 30 plus year old house that I try to keep clean but somehow feel it would not measure up to some of my friends homes. I would really really love to read this book! Bye!

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    Christine says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. I would love to do it more but I always stress that my house isn’t decorated nice enough, or clean enough and I always feel that everyone can entertain better than I can, I feel like I really don’t know how.

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    Queen B says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer! I love to have people in my home but am never comfortable doing so! I want to be able to relax and enjoy my guests but am usually distracted by the things left undone!

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    Clever And Crafty says

    Oh yes, I am a reluctant entertainer. I am the one that stresses the day before and the morning of making sure everything is neat and tidy, the food/drinks are just right, and by the time the guest start coming over I am exhausted and find I don’t enjoy myself as I should.

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    terri ezell says

    I do fine in the company of my family, but other than that, I can only dream.

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    Jeannine B. says

    I have definitely been a reluctant entertainer. I think it is all about getting over the fear of not being perfect! Thanks for an awesome giveaway!

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    Carolyn Williams says

    I am definately a reluctant entertainer. My mother is a southern belle who is an amazing entertainer and all my friends seem to do it with ease. Instead of hosting I usually help cook instead.

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    Casey says

    I’m most definitely reluctant but I desperately want to improve! I’d love for my children to know our house as one of joy and hospitatlity.

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    Brittany says

    I am a reluctant entertainer. I never can decided on anything. My husband loves to entertain and it makes me bite my finger nails!

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    Catherine says

    Oh, I would have to say I am a reluctant entertainer. In my heart, I want everyone there, spending time with friends and family, marveling at my ease of entertaining (lol!). In reality, I never feel like I have made the right choices, end up spending way too much for what I have accomplished, and wake up the next day thinking, “If only I had done …..” I think this might be just the help I have been looking for!

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    StephC says

    I am such a reluctant entertainer that…I don’t entertain! Bleh!
    Would really like to change this & would love to win the book.

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    Jill says

    I actually LOVE entertaining. However, since I had my son (and will soon be having #2) and I’ve gone back to work full-time (sigh), I have become a reluctant entertainer. It’d be great to take a look at what your friend has to say about these “roadblocks”.

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    dee says

    I’m 38, single and really want to be a g0od host. I love people but it’s overwhelming to have people over when you are not used to it. It would be cool to win this book and learn some skills.

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    Ginny says

    In my head I’m not, but I truly am, lol

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    Pleshette says

    I’m really nervous when people come over because I want to be a good hostess.

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    Lindsay says

    I NEED this book so bad! I love to cook and entertain but rarely do it because it seems so overwhelming.

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    Danielle says

    I am a reluctant entertainer! I never feel like my house is big enough, nice enough, or clean enough to host people. I love throwing parties though!

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    Tammy says

    I am a reluctant entertainer. I always feel like everything needs to be perfect, I could definitely use help in this area, I would love to win one of the books.

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    Lora says

    I usually love to entertain, but have recently become reluctant. I think it’s b/c we are on a super tight budget so I feel like I can’t entertain like I would normally and we have downsized into a smaller rent home and lots of my entertaining stuff is in storage. These are all just excuses, I realize:)

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    sarah says

    I love to entertain, that is until the time comes and I feel totally overwhelmed that I haven’t done enough or done it pretty enough. I would love to read this book. Thanks so much for the giveaway!

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    Rebekah says

    I can be a reluctant entertainer because it can be a challenge with little ones. This book looks very intriguing.

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    Melissa Renfro says

    Oh this looks like a lovely book. I am somewhat reluctant entertainer because my husband thinks that inviting a few people over means….30+ people. 🙂 It’s true. Our jobs in ministry require that we do quite a bit of entertaining, but I don’t always feel prepared. I am so glad I found your blog today.

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    Amy says

    I am certainly a reluctant entertainer, but always have a great time when we do have people over. This book looks fantastic!!!

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    City Share says

    I have been a reluctant entertainer because we live in a small apartment, but a small group always ends up being fun. The book looks great!

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    Vanessa D. says

    woo hoo! This totally describes me- I hate doing it but once I entertain people I love it. Isn’t that weird!

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    Michelle says

    Oh my mother is quite a reluctant entertainer. She fears for everything when house guests arrive. It has to be all just perfect for the guests.

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    Anne Marie Devine says

    it’s a bit like taking a step off a cliff when one entertains —

    we hope for a soft landing — and that the parchute opens…

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    Lara says

    I’ve never given myself a catchy title like “Reluctant Entertainer” before, but that’s exactly what I am. I love it when I do it, but I’m so paranoid about my old dining room furniture and my undecorated basement and so on and so on, that I rarely do it.

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    Kem says

    I fantasize about being a great hostess and entertainer!
    This book seems very interesting!

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    valerie says

    I am a HUGELY reluctant entertainer. I have so wished that I was one of those who loves to have people in my home – and was good at it – but I feel so inadequate that I think I’ve probably only ever done it once or twice in my life!

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    Becky says

    I am a reluctant entertainer. I love having people over but, I try most of all to honor Christ in my hospitality inspite of myself and how inperfect it looks.

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    Sara Smith says

    Still a bit of a perfectionist which keeps me in the “reluctant” category more than I would like!

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    Nikki says

    I am still a reluctant entertainer! I can never just sit and enjoy my company because my brain is on multi-task mode. *sigh* I may need this book whether I win it or not!

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    Jenn says

    Now that I’m 24 weeks pregnant and chasing after a 17 month toddler son I’d say that I highly qualify under the title of “reluctant”, lol!

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    Heather says

    I would love to entertain more, but I always worry about what to serve and if the house is clean enough!

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    Sandra says

    I love to be with people, but we lost our home and are now renting a duplex … and I always feel that I do not measure up – as others have said, that my house isn’t as nice and I don’t know how to make things pretty…

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    Laurie says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer! I get worked up about the details and never know how to help people enjoy themselves. Thanks for the great giveaway!

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    Hilary says

    I love being with people, I get a lot of energy from others, but having them over is another story. I get drained feeling like I have to put everything together. So yes I suppose I am a reluctant entertainer.

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    Angelina says

    I didn’t know my condition had a name! I am a reluctant entertainer! I enjoy cooking, my house is in decent shape(considering I have 3 little ones), I just can’t seem to pull all the details together. I would love to entertain more but I’m often discouraged by my perceived shortcomings. I feel like I’m so close…

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    chaya says

    Oh yes, I was a reluctant entertainer and I guess, I still am. I always worry that I am going to run out of food so I overcook or overbake and then I am stuck with the leftovers.

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    Tiffany says

    I have always enjoyed the idea of having people over alot — and have done it often through the years. However, I do so often compare how much better others are than myself at doing it. There’s that comparing thing again!

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    Amanda Boots says

    Yes, I am a reluctant entertainer. My mom was that way because our house was always a mess. I inherited that gene but I am working to reverse that!

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    Anna B says

    I like entertaining, but I’ve sure taken my time in understanding that dinners are about people and not about impressive food! My first dinner party was a disasterous attempt at me showing off my cooking – arg! Now I just serve simple meals and enjoy people – and they enjoy it more too!

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    Alicia says

    Sometimes Im relutant, sometimes not so much. Depends on how quickly the entertaining is sprung on me, haha. The book sounds great, thanks for sharing!

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    Rachel M. says

    I’ve just stumbled upon your blog, and come to think of it, I’ve never thought about whether I’m a reluctant entertainer, but yes, I think I am. I am more of the frazzled, running around, worrying whether everything is in place and everyone is happy type of entertainer. I’d love to win this book!


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    kelly says

    We miss all the entertaining we used to do in the military.
    We still love to invite friends at the last minute.

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    Pam says

    I am a reluctant entertainer, I can get the food ready but the simple decorating that makes things just right is not something I am good at. So glad I stumbled upon this blog. I need help with organizing my life.

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    Ambia says

    My wonderful MIL is the ultimate entertainer, she is not happy unless she is having a dinner party with 25 of her closest friends. I would never have anyone over! (It is only because my husband enjoys it that we entertain at all!) Even after I invite someone, I spend the rest of the week hoping they call and cancel! Is that reluctant?

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    april says

    the only time we have people over is for the kids birthdays! i need to learn how to entertain more!

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    jennifer says

    Oh yes! Crazy before and during event!!

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    Heather says

    I love to entertain, but I still get caught up in the perfectionist aspect of it. I would love to read this book… plus, the strawberry bread is now a staple in my kitchen! 🙂

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    kristen says

    i’m so reluctant that it just doesn’t happen. i need some inspiration badly!

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    Babs says

    I am a reluctant entertainer. But I am trying to get better!

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    Donna Smith says

    I use to entertain but I think with just life these days I have not had any parties. I would love to get back to having people over and this book sounds like it will have great ideas on how to entertain.

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    Tasha says

    I enjoy actually having people over, but getting ready stresses me out. I always think that my house isn’t clean enough, I don’t have enough food or decorations or… I would love to check this book out!

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    Tonnie says

    Well…still a reluctant entertainer! How I wish I could change…is it possible?

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    Jenny F says

    I plan LOTS of parties/ get-togethers in my head. But when it comes to the logistics of pulling it all together, I don’t actually host very many!

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    Carrie BryanT says

    definitely a reluctant entertainer! I don’t mind the cleanup or the hardwork… but at a loss in so many other ways – book sounds great!

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    Andrea says

    I’m a very reluctant entertainer! I gave a party last year for the first time in about 10 years!

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    Cathy says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer! I dream about becoming better at it, though!! 😉

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    jen wade says

    this sounds like a great tool! i love to entertain, but get caught up in details that aren’t really all that important.

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    Emily says

    This is totally me. I like to be entertained at other people’s homes, but always end up comparing myself to them when it gets to be “my turn.” My husband and I are both pretty quiet stay-at-home kind of people and could definitely use some encouragement and motivation to entertain more!

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    KaKi McKinney says

    I am still regrettably a reluctant entertainer. I wish I didn’t get so anxious about it. I love to be around people, but my husband is an introvert. So, the combination with my reluctance, means we rarely entertain. But, we are about to enter a new time period. Our children are leaving the nest, and we have both declared that entertaining is high on our lists. So….this book could really come in handy!!

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    Trish says

    I want so much to be a good hostess, but I procrastinate because I never know what to make or what people will enjoy doing. When we do have people over, it’s always a good thing, but I don’t know why I stress out over it so much!

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    Jen says

    I am SUCH the reluctant entertainer! For example, my daughter was baptized this past weekend, and we hosted 15 immediate family members in our three bedroom ranch home. My husband and I were panicked and losing sleep over where to put everyone, cleaning EVERY inch of our home, and making ALL home-made food for our relatives. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant, and am so grateful that I had today off from teaching (because of the holiday) I was able to complete cleaning and could afford a few hours to rest. I could really use some advice and guidance when it comes to entertaining in a more relaxing way. The book would be a gift for not only me, but my husband as well. We had a great weekend, but reflecting back on it I WISH I had more TIME to visit and talk to everyone, especially my parents!

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    Nancy says

    There are obviously a whole lot of terrified nonhospitable people around, and I’m one of them. But in August I decided to make it my goal to invite one person (or a couple) into my home each month for the remainder of the year. Since I’ve normally invited one person every other year or two this is huge! And I did it in August. And survived. I’ve decided to do it because God has blessed me with peaceful space that I’d and I’ve been wondering if He’d like me share that peace with others from time to time – and not wait until it’s perfectly decorated and maintained space. I like the idea of learning how to be less reluctant as I step out in faith.

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    Jasmina says

    We are so blessed to be with my parents and with my in-laws in our little home in NC.We never have to look for any special day as every month is special as there is always be a birthday or a wedding anniversary. We are family from India and we believe that Guest is god. We have some indian neighbor friends that are part of our celebration and fortunately all of them have in-laws or their parents. So I could really use some advice and guidance when it’s come to inviting. This book is not only great gift for my family but also a great exposure to a new experience.

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    Quirky Cooking says

    I would LOVE this book! I like to have people over, but I’m not terribly organized with decorating and making everything pretty – I leave everything til the last minute!

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    Heather A says

    I love to entertain, but I don’t do a lot of decorating before having company. I’m pretty laid back about it, and I just like to have fun when entertaining.

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    Kristi C says

    I am a very reluctant entertainer. I get so stressed out wanting everything to be perfect that I make myself miserable.

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    Olivia says

    This book and the concept of stressful entertaining taps into something that I feel strongly about.
    I once spoke about “Hospitality” to my MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group. To prepare for my presentation, I read what the bible says about hospitality and was amazed by what I found. The bible talks very specifically about hospitality and I was deeply affected by what I learned while preparing to speak to this group of ladies.
    In Matthew 25: 31 -45 Jesus says that when we show hospitality to others, we are caring for Him.
    1 Peter 4:8-10 says,
    Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. 9 Cheerfully share your home with those who need a meal or a place to stay. 10 God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.

    So, after soaking all of this in, I decided that it REALLY doesn’t matter if the bathroom isn’t spotless and the sink has dishes in it or I’m not sure what I’ll make for dinner- it’s deeply important to embrace hospitality (entertaining) and not worry about all the “little stuff”.
    I’ll look forward to reading The Reluctant Entertainer!

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    Jess @ Mouse Nibbles says

    I am not a reluctant entertainer for large parties but I am with smaller dinner parties. I would love to get more comfortable having one or two couples over!

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    Ann Dunaway Teh says

    I’m so happy to have discovered this blog. And yes, I can relate to being a reluctant entertainer. And this is a recent development – I’ve always enjoyed entertaining but now that I’m a mom, I have shyed away from it – can’t seem to figure out how to balance everything between working, being mom and keeping my house they way I should!

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    Sheila says

    My husband and I LOVE to entertain, though I wasn’t always so excited about it. I’ve relaxed and decided the little things around the house aren’t as important as the memories made there!

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    Hope says

    Oh, I would love to win this book. I love to entertain. I always say “Be the hostess with the mostess” Thanks for letting us know about a great read.

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    nellbe says

    Having such a big family makes me a reluctant entertainer… so many of them entertain better than me! I need all the help I can get.

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    Christine M. Uberti says

    I’m 44 years old and am still a reluctant entertainer. I’ll buy this book if I don’t win it! Thanks for posting!

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    Lauren says

    I would consider myself a reluctant entertainer, but I have been reading Sandy’s blog and my perspective has been shifting. Would love a copy of her book!

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    laura says

    sometimes i am intimidated by how others entertain – guess i just need some self confidence and just do it!!! wow this sounds like a nike ad! 🙂

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    PW says

    I think if you work the hours that I do, it turns you into a relunctant entertainer. By the time you clean, grocery shop, do all the washing, cleaning food, chopping, putting the recipes together, it is so time consuming. It seems like simple foods are no longer served, it must be an exotic contemporary dis. Yikes, I am a relunctant entertainer and would love the book.

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    Melissa D says

    I am not the most reluctant entertainer in the world but I do obsess abotu entertaining. I need help with letting go and enjoying the moment! Please help.

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    caro says

    i think i try to hard- everything has to be homemade and i always seem to start preparing at 6am the morning of so i’m exhausted by the time guests come for dinner!

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    Andrea Watts says

    I’m VERY reluctant!

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    Nora says

    Oh yes…and I don’t know why. I think if I felt comfortable as a gracious host I would be more willing to do it more often. I guess I just need more practice 🙂

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    BB says

    Oh, I really need this book. I want to entertain more, but I find it so difficult, nervewracking, and stressful! It usually goes over well, though, and I’m so proud of myself! I could use some tips. Thanks!

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    Jackie Dube says

    I am a reluctant entertainer right now and I have been feeling that the Lord has been putting it on my heart to start having people over more & become more engaged with family & friends.

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    Jennifer Goggin says

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. As much as I enjoy and feel so blessed when I do things for others, I often find the obstacles become excuses for me. First, I percieve entertaining can be costly, so I find it challenging to determine how to do it effectively, while also keeping the costs down. Secondly, with small children, I don’t have the time to make sure my home is spotless and in perfect order when others come over, so I wonder how to prioritize what needs to be clean versus what is not important? Lastly, I want eveyone who comes to my home to feel special, so how do I prepare simple yet festive meals, favors, and activities when I am tight on time and money? I really want to challenge myself to overcome these obstacles and bless others!!

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    Christyn says

    I have always loved entertaining, and do it frequently- my problem is that I often over-do it and insist on perfection….which does NOT result in a relaxed and fun environment for my family prior to the event!

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    Tisha says

    I’d love to do more entertaining, but with two dogs (who I confine to the tile-floored kitchen) who shed their black fur in large clumps daily, it is hard to keep the entire house free from dog hair! I’m embarrassed to have people over, because even if I do sweep/mop/vacuum the floor (everyday), there is sure to be dog hair hiding somewhere. I love my pups, but sometimes I want to scream it to the hills, “does anyone want two dogs who will ruin your home on a daily basis?”

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    Cheryl says

    Hi friend – great giveaway. I have an addiction to cookbooks and was thinking maybe I should order b/c I thought I was too late to enter. Thanks for the opportunity. C.

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    Cheryl says

    Ooops – me again. I was so excited to enter that I didn’t read it through. I am not reluctant when it comes to entertaining – I love it. I almost prefer to cook for bigger groups – I love a full house – I love sending people home with leftovers – love it all! C.

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    Stefanie says

    I am very much a reluctant entertainer. I worry about the house not looking organized enough, did I over or under cook the food, the dogs the kids and the list goes on. So we maybe have guests once or twice a year.

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    Sumana says

    I would love to entertain more, since we moved to our first house 6 months ago.. but I am so scared with 2 little kids and since beacuse of budget the house being not entirely set up..I would love to learn how to entertain without feeling incompetent and nervous while having guests and Sandy’s book would be lovely to guide me.

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    Christy Collins says

    I’m a new reader. I didn’t used to be reluctant to entertain, but my clutter is making me very reluctant to do so.

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    Belinda says

    I would love to receive this book!

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      Belinda says

      OOPs – hit the enter button to quickly! I have always been nervous about having people over. If people show up unexpectedly – I meet them outside!

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    Melanie says

    I am a reluctant entertainer at times!