POH: We Can Do Hard Things
For those that might have missed the first post in this series you can catch up here but essentially throughout this year one of our main focuses here will center around creating peaceful organized homes (POH for short) so that upon entering we immediately sigh and say “ahhh home!”. That’s what I want for you and you and you.
For me well I want to lose weight. And as I’ve struggled with my self imposed “no chip” January rule, it has dawned on me how similar the struggle of losing weight and organizing are.
Organizing comes easy to me because I’ve been doing it for so long and have seen the rewards being organized produces. However with losing weight not so much. I know that I can’t tell you to just get rid of stuff the same way a nutritional expert can’t tell me to just stop eating junk. I already know what I need to do, the same way I’m sure you do. It’s just so dang hard. I’m addicted to food the same way someone else may be addicted to stuff. Correcting the abundance doesn’t happen overnight. It’s going to take time. Period.
Knowing why we want to achieve something might help as it gives us something to focus on but that can only take us so far. We have to do the work to achieve the results. And it can be downright painful. Like exercise is to me, so could it be the same way for you parting with your Granny’s china because you have no where to store it. Ouch. Been there.
We constantly look for the easy way out though don’t we? It’s why we read blogs or search Pinterest endlessly. Maybe there is a supplement I can just take to rid me of these unwanted pounds or perhaps there is an organizing trick that will allow you to discover hidden storage so you don’t have to part with pounds of your stuff. Oh do I get that. And sometimes there is a trick or a magic formula that works for us temporarily but often it’s fleeting. Eventually it catches up with us. Eventually the pounds will come back whether that’s in weight or stuff.
We’ve got to address the stuff. And by address I mean face it head on and say enough is enough already.
We can do hard things.
I looked up the definition of peaceful the other day and here is what I found out:
characterized by peace, free from war, strife, commotion, violence, or disorder
Free from disorder. And then I looked up disorder:
lack of order or regular arrangement; confusion
And while I know there are many things that can cause disorder in a home, for the purpose of this blog obviously we’ll concentrate on the clutter and chaos in our homes that is leading to the disorder and disarray.
Last year, some of you might remember, I gave up diet coke for an entire month. It was hard but I wanted to break my addiction of it and it worked. I still drink it occasionally but it no longer has a hold over my life like it once did. The only way I was able to give it up in the first place was by putting a boundary in place. One month I told myself and then you can drink it again. Knowing that it wasn’t forever made it easier and of course when the month was over I wasn’t even dying to run out and have one. I’d lost the taste for it. It was such a powerful lesson for me to learn. I can do hard things and so can you.
Now I’m giving up chips for a month and it’s proving to be many times harder than the diet coke. But it’s ONE month. I can do this!
For those wanting to “get organized” it’s going to require some parting of some things. There is no way around it. People we just have way too much stuff. So here’s what I’m going to suggest. How about setting a parameter of your own. Maybe your addiction to the stuff runs so deep that you might only be able to set a daily goal and take it one day at a time rather than saying you’ll get rid of so many things in a month. That’s okay. What if each day you told yourself that you only needed to part with two things. Does that sound reasonable? Then the next day do it again. You might surprise yourself with the fact that it does get easier as you exercise your decision making muscle.
Whenever I get on the treadmill I tell myself I only need to do it for 15 minutes. If I didn’t do that I would never get on. Anything over that is overwhelming to me. 15 minutes sounds reasonable to me. And guess what always happens? You got it, once I’m on and have done my first 15 minutes, I keep going for another 15. The last fifteen are easy compared to the whole psychological lead up that is necessary for the first 15. Oh the mind games we have to play.
Are you ready to get serious about your stuff? Will you share with me in the comments what parameter you’ll implement to start parting with your abundance of things? This is a community of like minded people so let’s share and encourage one another.
Remember we can do hard things.