So I’ve noticed that so many of us walk around complaining about how stressed out and busy we are. And yet what I’ve realized is this…we are doing it to ourselves.
So much of life is not in our control…the weather, sickness, traffic, etc. I get that. However there are many things that we have going on in our lives that we are allowing to happen even though we don’t have the time, space, money or energy for them. Why do we do this? Out of obligation, guilt, fear, happiness (not all complications are bad ones) or even habit I suppose. Whatever the reason, if you find that you are going through life stressed out and frustrated then perhaps it’s time to take notice and do something about it.
We buy stuff and then complain about all the clutter in our homes.
We drag our kids from activity to activity and complain about how tired everyone is and how no one cooperates.
We eat out a couple of times a week and then complain about how we can never lose weight.
We buy stuff for our homes, eat meals out and enroll our kids in expensive activities and then complain we are in debt.
We say yes to way too many ministries or activities and then complain we are never home for our families.
We plant a garden and then complain that we have no time for it or that no one helps weed it.
We buy a treadmill and then complain we don’t have the energy to use it.
We plan elaborate dinner parties and then complain about how much work it is.
We spend time with friends on a daily basis only to complain to them about how we don’t have time to organize our homes.
We menu plan a week’s worth of time consuming recipes that we can’t get to and then complain that menu planning doesn’t work for us.
Choices. All of them choices that we make each and every day. Believe me I’m talking to myself here as much as I am to you.
Are we listening to ourselves and all this negative self talk?
Are we really listening?
Because here’s the thing. If we are really listening, we can CHOOSE to make some changes. We can CHOOSE to turn the negative complaining into something positive even if what we have to do hurts in the interim. Not all choices are going to be easy to make.
Having a garden could be something that you find totally relaxing and enjoyable but if you are 9 months pregnant, perhaps this isn’t your year to put one in.
Having people over for dinner might be something you are keen to do but if all the work frustrates you then change it up and go potluck style instead.
If living in a cluttered home drives you crazy then maybe it’s time to make a small change that propels you to a less chaotic life.
Are we complaining just for the sake of complaining or do we really want to make a change? Either way let’s stop complaining. Either decide you aren’t going to do something about it and move on OR decide that this is the time for change. Negativity isn’t good for anyone.
Negative in = negative out
Take a negative statement like “something must be wrong with me that I can’t keep a tidy house” and change it to a positive action like “today I’m going to spend 15 minutes organizing one area of my home”. The difference is huge. One is so detrimental and the other life changing.
Positive in = positive out
Life is complicated enough without us having to make it anymore so.
Pay attention to the things in your life that leave you stressed and frustrated and figure out why. Drill it down. What kind of positive change can you make, even if it’s a hard one, so that you aren’t living with nothing but negativity day in and day out.
Complicating life is exhausting so let’s stop it okay?
Simplifying isn’t just about removing the things in our lives that we don’t love or use but it also means removing the things that affect us negatively even if those are things we love and use.
We live in seasons. Perhaps you are in a season of life where expectations need to be lowered, activities need to cease, shopping needs to slow down, circumstances need to change (etc) but just remember it doesn’t have to be forever. Sometimes we have to do hard things just to save our sanity in the right here and now.
Figure out what is most important for your life right now.
Stop or modify the things that hinder or block this from happening.
One day at a time.
and stop complicating life.
Instead let’s start living in the positive
And we’ll see what happens.
Who’s with me?
Are you complicating life unnecessarily? What one thing can you change TODAY to stop that?
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