I often get my inspiration about what to write here from others. Whether it’s from one of my readers or another blog post I’ve read on the net. In this case though, today’s blog post comes from a podcast I recently listened to. The podcast is called Do It Scared by Ruth Soukup and the particular episode I’m referring to is about limiting beliefs and How to Stop Listening to That Voice in Your Head That Says You Can’t.
It’s all about how these limiting beliefs can hold us back and what to can do about it. It got me thinking about all the organizing limiting beliefs I’ve heard over they years that keep people stuck living in clutter and chaos. If you feel you are perpetually living in disorganization perhaps these organizing limiting beliefs are hindering any progress for change. So technically it’s not you, it’s just the voice in your head. Ha! Let’s figure out how to make it go away.
What is a Limiting Belief?
So I took to the net again to figure this out and discovered that a limiting belief is a false belief that a person acquires as a result of making an incorrect conclusion about something in life. Self-limiting beliefs can also be excuses for a lack of willingness to change a behavior that inhibits your success. Ouch.
In simpler terms, Ruth describes limiting beliefs as that voice in your head that says you CAN’T. It is a thought or belief we have that holds us back from achieving our full potential.
Organizing Limiting Beliefs:
When it comes to organizing here are some of the limiting beliefs I’ve heard over the years. See if you identify with any of them.
- I can’t get organized because I don’t have the time
- I can’t get organized because I don’t have the organizing gene and won’t do it correctly
- I can’t get organized because I don’t have the money for supplies
- I can’t get organized because I have too much stuff so why bother
- I can’t get organized because I will lose the memory if I part with sentimental items
- I can’t get organized because I might need these things someday
- I can’t get organized because my things were expensive and it would be such a waste
- I can’t get organized because it would be ungrateful to toss things given to me by others
Which one of these resonates with you most? Let me know in the comments, I hate talking to myself here :)
Strategies to Overcome Them:
In her podcast Ruth provides three powerful strategies you can use to overcome your limiting beliefs:
1 – Name the fear. Identify the thought or belief that’s playing in your head, and figure out what exactly the fear is.
2 – Change the tape. Replace the message that your negative inner voice tells you with a new message, and intentionally craft a new script for yourself.
3 – Create accountability. It’s really hard to let people in and be real and authentic, especially when it comes to our limiting beliefs, but it’s important to have someone who will call you out when necessary.
Let’s use one of the organizing limiting beliefs above as an example of how to use these strategies.
I don’t have the organizing gene & might do it incorrectly
Name the fear – the fear here is believing there is a right or wrong way to organize and that you might make a mistake. It can be quite paralyzing but when we name the fear and identify it we can also take away its power. Sometimes we aren’t even aware how much power we give these limiting beliefs. The truth is organizing is a skill that anyone can learn and thankfully there is no way to do it wrong. Yay!
Change the tape – change your message to a more positive one…”organizing takes practice as with any other skill. Today I’m going to do one small thing to work towards my goal of not being disorganized. I am capable of doing this!” Repeat this to yourself over and over if necessary. We have to start changing the message that is being played, into something that is not so self-defeating. Another small message tweak can simply be “I have this great space in my home, how can I best use it to best organize my present life?”.
Create accountability – If fear is standing in your way, you want to find someone to hold you accountable to change. Whether it’s a friend or family member or even a Professional Organizer (find one HERE in Canada or HERE in the US), be willing to receive honest feedback from them to keep you on track.
Go over and have a listen of Ruth’s podcast for more in depth information on this topic and even get a free worksheet. The podcast isn’t specifically about organization but the theory can certainly be applied to this area if this is a struggle for you. It might just be the boost you need to push yourself out of your clutter and chaos rut and on to the other side.
You’ve got this girl and yep you can totally do it!!
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