The other day I was reading a beautiful blog post and the writer was giving us a tour of her living room and her pretty Christmas decorations. It really was lovely. But then in a blink of an eye it happened.
For her table.
Her table that she thought was ugly.
I hadn’t even noticed the table.
Until of course she pointed it out.
And then I was just sad.
Because the beautiful moment had disappeared.
Just like that.
Ladies why do we do this? I see it time and time again and believe me I’m guilty of it myself as well. Focusing on the negative only draws attention to it. Why do we want to do that? Let’s face it we all have things/stuff in our lives that maybe isn’t our ideal or as fashionable as maybe we’d like but it’s ours nonetheless. And while we may be embarrassed by it and feel the need to make sure others are aware of our embarrassment someone else may be looking at your table, or couch, or bedspread or carpet and wishing they could have something half as nice as that. They might be saying to themselves, gosh if they think their couch is hideous there is no way I’m inviting her to my house to see mine.
I caught myself the other day apologizing to a girlfriend for the blandness of my builder beige walls. Why did I find it necessary to point out my discontentment when I know that negativity breeds negativity. I don’t want that. I want to instead focus on the fact that I have walls that give me shelter and a place to put my head at night.
How can we be apologizing for something and grateful for it at the same time?
Let’s instead try to focus on the positive, especially during the holiday season when it’s so easy to be envious of what someone else has.
My challenge to you (and me) is to pay attention to your words this week to see if you can catch yourself apologizing for something you’re maybe not so happy with. Then turn that negativity upside down into something beautiful and gratuitous instead.
We can do this.
Let the moment happen.