“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.”As written by Maya Angelou for Success
Part of my talk I did a couple of weeks ago included how important it is to pay attention to our inner dialogue. As you go about your day really pay attention to how you are feeling and reacting to situations and things in your life. When do you find yourself tensing up, getting upset or even angry or putting yourself down? It is important to recognize when this is happening to you and, if you can, do something about it.
Let’s look at some examples:
Does it bother you to open a cupboard and have something fall out on your head?
Does it bother you to miss appointments or be late to an event?
Does it bother you to be constantly looking for things?
Does it bother you that your kids don’t help out around the house?
Does it bother you that your meals are unhealthy?
Does it bother you that you don’t have time for yourself?
Does it bother you every time you have to see the vase you received as a gift from your Aunt June?
Does it bother you that your dining room table is too full of clutter to enjoy a family meal together?
Does it bother you enough to do something about it?
The answers will be different for everyone. Each of our families have their own set of unique circumstances and what we each consider to be important and that is OKAY. As well, so many things in our lives we don’t have control over but do you realize that all of the things above you CAN do something about. Take some time to pray and ask God to give you some direction with your daily priorities, talk with your husband to see what is also important to him and use all of this information you have gathered as your motivation to make some solid changes in your life.
Start with one thing at a time, just don’t keep doing what you’ve always done and except different results. It just doesn’t work that way. If we take a little time to really look at our situations and do a little planning and practice a little (or maybe a lot) of discipline we CAN change the behaviors or areas that drive us insane and cause our homes to be out of balance.
What’s causing me to be cranky this week is all my pictures that need printing and filing that I’ve gotten behind on again. So I’m going to concentrate on getting this done even though the project seems so huge it’s overwhelming to me and I don’t want to do it. I’m not going to get ahead of myself though, I’m just going to break it down into manageable steps and keep doing “the next thing”.
What one thing is bothering you the most right now and will you join me in doing something about it?