Do you know your limitations?
I’m so honored when someone tells me that I’ve inspired them to tackle an organizing project. That is awesome and I give the glory to God for allowing me this passion and a way to do good with it.
People often say to me how do you find time to do all the organizing you do? Well truthfully I find time because it is my hobby, I enjoy doing it, the same way some enjoy scrapbooking, knitting, bungy jumping, etc. Fortunately for me when I do organize it’s a hobby my whole family can benefit from and hopefully they appreciate.
That doesn’t mean that I am superwoman. Far from it. So I don’t even try to be. I know what my limitations are (for whatever season of life I’m in) and I know I can only do so much.
Up until 2006 I was a working mom. Having grown up with a working mom I knew just how difficult it was to maintain schedules, routines, a clean house, kids, dinners, etc. while working full-time. I also knew I wouldn’t be able to keep up the pace that this type of lifestyle would warrant. I just knew I needed to find a way to keep the stress at bay. For me that meant getting some help in an area that was causing me the most stress.
That is why I hired a cleaning lady!
She was an amazing help and I called her my saving grace! About 8 years ago after it was decided that I would go back to work after my oldest daughter was born I made a deal with my hubbie that if I was going to go back to work (at the time we felt like we had no other choice), under no circumstances was I going to have us spend the entire weekend cleaning the house and thankfully he agreed. From that point on I had someone come into my home once a week to clean for me. Boy did that take the pressure off. A clean house is important to me and I didn’t want to beat myself up trying or pretending to do it all. This was a terrific compromise for the functioning of my household AND my sanity. I knew my limitations and was willing to do something about it.
Does the pressure ever get to you? I’m here to say give yourself a break and know your limitations, whatever they are. Hire a cleaner, hire a professional organizer, trade services with another mom, hire a babysitter so you can tackle something yourself that has been stressing you out, put your children in less activities, learn to ask for help from friends, take a course, you get the picture. Just don’t beat yourself up about it. We are only human, it is okay that something that comes so easily for someone else might not come so easily for you. Don’t look at what you can’t do but what you CAN do to make it right and yes sometimes that means asking for help.