This morning I waved to my 18 year old daughter as she drove away to start life in another town on her own, without me. I’m so excited for her but it sure is hard to let them go. My emotions are high today.
I wrote this on my personal Facebook page just after she left at 5:00 am.
“I remember the day we brought her home from the hospital like it was yesterday. It was a Thursday. She was sleeping and we carefully placed her in her crib and then watched Friends like we normally did every Thursday night. It seemed so surreal to be doing something so routine, so ordinary, yet everything was different. We had a baby to raise and care for, something no book could ever prepare us for. And now today, 18 years later, that baby, our first born, is all grown up and starting life on her own. Without us. I just watched her drive away and my little mama heart is full of emotion as memories of the last 18 years flash in spurts in front of my eyes. The good times, the hard times. They go hand in hand. As I go about my day today, doing ordinary and very routine tasks, I will think about how I never thought this day would come, yet ready or not, here it is. I miss her already.”
If there is ONE thing I could tell you from my experience looking back at the past 18 years it is this:
Don’t be in such a rush.
Don’t be in a rush to see them grow up.
Don’t be in a rush to get them to the next stage.
Don’t be in a rush to get things done.
Don’t be in a rush to acquire more and more things.
Don’t be in a rush to make more money.
Don’t be in a rush to get from one activity to another.
Don’t be in rush to clean more things.
Don’t be in a rush to complicate life.
Life goes fast enough on it’s own, there is no need to rush through it.
Take a deep breath and live right where you are in whatever season you are in.
Say no to being busy.
Collect memories, not stuff.
Enjoy the journey. Because in such a short time, your child will be waving at you as they drive away and there you’ll stand with tears streaming down your face wishing you could get back just one more moment of that precious time with them.
Slow down my friends.
And enjoy the ride :)