My home makes me happy. Not because I have a gorgeous large fancy house or anything (I really don’t) but simply because it’s home, it’s where my people are. No matter where I’ve been, I always love coming home. In fact I hate leaving most of the time. My home is cozy and it comforts me. It brings me peace. And that’s what I want for you…a peaceful organized home (POH for short).
Here is a list of 6 things that you can do to bring peace to your home. Of course there are other things that can bring stress to a home like marriage discord or financial worries however for this series we are focusing on the clutter and chaos that brings disorder to our homes. These are in no particular order.
1. Change your attitude
I have a super small entryway in this house. It’s one of those stairs up and stairs down right as you come in the door type of thing. All five of us can never all come in at the same time because it’s just too crowded. It’s hard for me not to compare it to our old home in BC which some of you might remember had a large entryway with room for everyone to come in and move around.
BUT all comparison does is steal my joy for the present.
My bitterness to a small entryway isn’t going to change a single thing about the size. So I have a choice, I can be miserable about it each and every time I walk in the door or I can adjust my attitude about it, recognize that it is what it is and make it work. That right there my friends is half the battle. And even more importantly our attitude sets the stage for the attitudes our kids will assume, yikes!
2. Add a Beautiful Scent
This one is huge for me. I love a great smelling house. In my old house my scent was Satsuma using the Satsuma oil from Body Shop and whenever I walked in the door it immediately triggered home for me. I loved it! In this house, however, that scent doesn’t seem to be work the same so now I use a variety of scents to make my home smell delicious and inviting depending on the season. Whether you use essential oils, wax warmers or candles, it’s an easy thing to do to bring a comfortable, clean feeling to your home.
3. Clear the clutter
This area is one of the hardest for people to get under control. The piles that breed in the night and accumulate out of nowhere mocking us from every turn. And you know what a pile attracts don’t you? More piles that’s what! Yep once a pile starts it’s easy to keep it going thinking you’ll deal with it later. Only as the pile grows it becomes overwhelming to think about tackling it so there it sits or it gets shoved into a cupboard thinking we’ll feel better if we can’t see it. But don’t fool yourself, you still know it’s there and it will annoy the heck out of you every time you need to dig through the pile to find what you need. Similarly, stuff and piles on the floor that you have to walk over and around can be pretty stressful and agitating. It’s pretty hard to feel peaceful in your home if you are walking around feeling frustrated all the time. It’s time to clear that clutter and enjoy the peace that comes from an uncluttered home. If you hate making decisions about your stuff, then this post right here is for you.
4. Have a home for everything
The best way to get to an uncluttered home is to have a place for everything so you can put things back easily when they get scattered about (and they will, we don’t live in bubbles after all). This is the part that takes time, and that people tend to avoid. Where to put things leads to much stress for people because it takes brain power, believe me I get it. At the end of a long day you just want to relax. But here’s the thing, are you really relaxing with all that clutter and chaos around you? Subconsciously all that stuff is going to weigh you down, whether you know it or not. Others might be thinking that it’s just no use since you don’t have the storage space to store it all. Well let me challenge you here by saying, perhaps what you need isn’t more storage but just less stuff to store. Remember my golden rule:
Have nothing in your home that you do not love or use OR have the room to store.
You can read more about that here.
5. Clear the mind clutter
Our brains are constantly working on overdrive. If something doesn’t have a home, your brain is constantly trying to remember for you where it is. It doesn’t get a break, it can’t turn off. Not only does it have to try and remember for you where everything is let’s not forget about all the details it has to remember in regards to schedules and things that have to get done. Who has to be where and when, school notes to be sent back, hippie day at school on Friday that your kiddo needs a costume for, groceries to buy, appointments to schedule, and on and on and on. Let’s give ourselves a break and get that stuff out of our heads and onto paper and a calendar of some type. I like to call it a brain dump and you can read more about how that works here. When your brain isn’t cluttered and on overload you’ll find that it’s much easier to make necessary decisions and changes about how your time is spent. Things become so much clearer when you aren’t in a fog. Less worry and stress leads to better sleep which makes it easier to have a better attitude. Ahhh we’ve come full circle, did you see how that happened? :)
6. Create some margin in your life
There are some seasons of life that are just going to be busier than others especially if you have littles that can’t pull their own weight around the house yet :) I just read a great post over on the (in)courage site that really spoke to me:
“If we don’t allow white space in our lives to breathe and refresh, but instead pack every moment of every day full to the brim with to-do’s and projects, our lives will feel chaotic, disorderly, and exhausting. If you have a full schedule, you probably won’t naturally find much margin or breathing room in your life. Instead, you have to be intentional about cultivating it.“
The post then goes on to give you 4 ways to help you cultivate a little more breathing space into your life. You can read it here.
Regardless of the size of your home or the furnishings inside, our homes should be a sanctuary for our souls, a place of comfort and peace to come home to everyday. I hope putting these six steps into place will help you achieve that goal.
Read this series from the beginning here.