That said, we’re both learning some give and take. He’s learning to relax, and I’m learning to put some better routines in place. It’s taken us a while to get to this point, though…

i am just so relieved!

I am the messy and he hates it.

I am almost pathologically organized. I always have been. By the time we were married six months, we’d reached a compromise.

Simple, really. The garage is his. Period. It bothers me sometimes but when I start breaking out in hives I remember that the garage is his. He can be a slob there.

He cannot, however, be a slob inside the house, which is MINE.

So really, we worked it out and if we hadn’t, it could have become a deal breaker.

Rob goes out of his way, although he thinks it’s silly, to understand that every single thing inside the house has a place and needs to be there. Otherwise, he gets to deal with a crazed wife.

I go out of my way, as I cover my eyes and walk through the garage, to remember that this is his space.

It works.

I’m one that likes to see a CLEAN bathroom counter, with minimal items on it. My husband is one that likes to have everything out in arms reach so that he doesn’t have to look for anything. Same with the bathtub. I like everything all contained. He likes it all out. You can see the problem here. ;) I agree that it’s a matter of preferences, priorities, and habit.
How do we settle these two differences? Easy,.. every time I take a shower I pick the shampoo off the side of the tub, use it, put it in the basket. Hubby comes in, takes it out of the basket, uses it and leaves it on the side of the tub. Yup. That’s how it goes. Over and over and over again. :) Will he ever change? Like you said… probably not.
=)

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